You want to experience a true blackpill moment.
Bring a 6’4 Chad who’s unemployed, lives in his grandma’s basement, has no future, and sports bets full time with you to your nearest bar.
Also bring your friend who’s 5’5, a software engineer with a master’s degree, his own house, a paid off car, and an 800 credit score.
Bring both of them together to the bar. Put them side by side. For every group of girls you see, ask them which guy they’d choose. Tell each girl exactly what each guy brings to the table.
100% of the girls will choose the 6’4 Chad before even finding out he’s unemployed and lives in his grandma’s basement. In fact, many would still choose him even after finding out.
You want to know why?
Because you’re judged before you ever open your mouth based on your genetic makeup.
You want to experience a true blackpill moment.
Bring a 6’4 Chad who’s unemployed, lives in his grandma’s basement, has no future, and sports bets full time with you to your nearest bar.
Also bring your friend who’s 5’5, a software engineer with a master’s degree, his own house, a paid off car, and an 800 credit score.
Bring both of them together to the bar. Put them side by side. For every group of girls you see, ask them which guy they’d choose. Tell each girl exactly what each guy brings to the table.
100% of the girls will choose the 6’4 Chad before even finding out he’s unemployed and lives in his grandma’s basement. In fact, many would still choose him even after finding out.
You want to know why?
Because you’re judged before you ever open your mouth based on your genetic makeup.
"Forget about body count. Body count doesn't always count. Sometimes it's better to marry a lady who has gone into the world and experienced life than to marry one who hasn't. Those you think are less ev!l, what they are doing behind the scenes will shøck you."
— Canada-based Nigerian doctor, Zo, reveals the advice he recently gave to his abroad-based male friend after the friend planned to call off his intended marriage upon hearing that the lady slept with two other men he knows in Nigeria.
Isha Sesay had a baby on her own at 47 - without a partner - by IVF. "It's not a rejection of anyone, it's an embrace of my own autonomy."
The former CNN anchor told me how her mom's stroke led her to becoming a Single Mother by Choice
“To start Akara business doesn't take a lot of money. To start roasting corn and kuli-kuli doesn't take much. We didn't give them a loan, we gave them a grant. We have encouraged Nigerians as best as we could.”
- First Lady Remi Tinubu
I hope more men see this and remember to take their retirement planning seriously.
The reality is that many of us will most likely spend our later years on our own, regardless of how devoted we were as fathers. That’s one reason I believe having a large number of children with the expectation that they will care for you in old age is grossly stupid.
We now live in an era where individual ambitions often take precedence over family obligations. Most children will naturally prioritize their own careers, relationships, their own families and other responsibilities that would take them far from home. And that doesn’t mean they don’t love their parents, it simply means their lives won’t revolve around us.
So, have children because you genuinely want to raise them, not because you expect them to become your retirement plan. Whether you have one child or 50 children, focus on giving them a strong upbringing, helping them become well-rounded adults, and building meaningful relationships with them. But these shouldn’t be done with the expectation that they would “repay” you for your help and sacrifices.
As man, invest wisely, protect your health, and make deliberate plans for old age.
At the end of the day, the greatest gift you can give both yourself and your children is the freedom to age with dignity, security, and as much independence as possible and that’s only possible with planning well for old age.
This is literally Zanzibar😭 Most places are so far from each other 1 hour, 2 hours, 3 hrs and that’s without traffic. Half of the trip is spent on the road😩 some part of the road were even scary just bushes everywhere I was so scared