Young legitimate people between 25 and 35 in Nigeria are not against marriage in the real sense of it.
Most still want it.
They are just scared of what it costs right now.
Money, peace of mind, and the risk of building something that collapses under pressure.
Money comes up first.
Rent in Lagos, Abuja or Port Harcourt is brutal. A place that used to go for 400–500k can now cost 800k to over a million, before furniture or generator.
Food and transport keep rising.
Someone earning 150k to 300k already feels stretched. Marriage means housing two people (and later children) under one roof, plus the expectation that the man carries the bigger share.
Many look at their balance after rent and transport and say “not yet.” They have watched relatives struggle and get disrespected at home over money.
They do not want the same life.
Weddings make it worse. A “normal” wedding families will accept now easily runs into several millions once you add traditional lists, aso-ebi, hall, catering and photography.
Some bride lists alone are frightening.
People borrow heavily or sell land just to meet expectations, then start marriage life in debt.
Couples who need each other still postpone because they do not want the first years spent paying loans.
Social media has turned the celebration into a competition that can leave you broke.
Housing is its own problem.
You can have a solid relationship and still not marry if you cannot find a place both of you can afford without one person living with parents forever.
Culture adds weight.
Marriage is rarely just between two people.
In-laws come with expectations.
The man is still expected to be the main provider even when the woman earns as much or more.
That pressure meets a weak economy and many men feel set up to fail. Some women worry they will do most of the emotional and domestic work while also contributing money.
They have watched their mothers manage households under stress and are not rushing into the same arrangement.
Trust is thinner.
Many have already been through relationships that ended badly due to cheating, greed, lack of patience and foresight, and extreme violence and deceits.
They enter the next one already guarding themselves.
Talking stages drag on because commitment feels risky.
Divorce is more visible now. People see couples who did the big wedding and still split after a few years over money or growing apart.
That makes the permanent nature of marriage feel less safe.
There is also a quieter shift. A lot of young Nigerians want to sort their own lives first; career, some savings, mental space before adding someone else’s needs and family expectations.
The old script of finishing school, getting any job and marrying by 25–28 no longer matches underemployment and rising costs.
Some women would rather stay single longer than settle for a partnership that drains them. Some men feel the bar has moved so high that they would rather avoid the process.
People in that age bracket still get married every year.
But the difference is the caution. They are asking harder questions like:
Can we afford a place?
What happens if one of us loses a job?
Are we clear on money, children and in-laws?
The fear comes from the economy, the cost of the ceremony, the weight of expectations, and enough broken marriages around them.
Until those things ease, many 25- to 35-year-olds will keep choosing to wait.
That does not make them unserious. It just means they are paying more attention and probably feeling "woke".
End.
Six 6 Ways to Break the Spirit of Prayerlessness
1. Ask the Holy Spirit to Rekindle Your Prayer Life
Prayerlessness can be overcome when you sincerely ask God for fresh spiritual hunger.
Romans 8:26 — “The Spirit also helpeth our infirmities…”
2. Set a Specific Time for Prayer
Do not wait until you “feel like praying.” Establish a consistent prayer time and protect it from distractions.
Daniel 6:10 — Daniel prayed three times a day.
3. Start Small and Be Consistent
If your prayer life has become weak, start with 10–15 minutes and gradually increase. Consistency is more important than trying to pray for hours immediately.
Zechariah 4:10 — “For who hath despised the day of small things?”
4. Study the Word Before You Pray
The Word of God gives you spiritual language, faith, and direction in prayer. Read a passage and turn its promises into prayers.
John 15:7 — “If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will…”
5. Remove Distractions and Spiritual Hindrances
Excessive entertainment, uncontrolled social media use, bitterness, unforgiveness, and a careless lifestyle can weaken your desire for spiritual things. Create an environment that helps you focus on God.
Hebrews 12:1 — “Let us lay aside every weight…”
6. Pray Even When You Don't Feel Like Praying
Prayer is not based only on feelings. Discipline yourself to seek God even when you feel spiritually dry. As you continue, your spiritual hunger can be renewed.
Luke 18:1 — “Men ought always to pray, and not to faint.”
Prayer
“Father, revive my prayer life. Remove every spiritual weakness, distraction, and discouragement that makes me lose the desire to pray. Give me fresh hunger for Your Word, Your presence, and fellowship with You. Let the Holy Spirit strengthen me and make prayer a daily delight in my life, in Jesus’ name. Amen.”🙏🙏🙏
One thing the Bible does not hide is how sexual sin has destroyed even great men — not ordinary people, but men chosen, anointed, wise, strong, and spiritually gifted. Whenever the Bible repeats something, it means God wants us to pay attention. And if there is anything Scripture repeats consistently, it is this: sexual sin is not ordinary.
Let’s look at David.
He was a king, a worshipper, a warrior, a man after God’s heart. Yet one moment of uncontrolled desire with Bathsheba threw his entire life into chaos. It started with a glance, then a desire, then an action — and then came consequences that echoed for years. A man who killed Goliath fell before sexual temptation. It shows us clearly that spiritual strength does not cancel human vulnerability. Nobody is above temptation, and nobody “outgrows” the need for purity.
Consider Samson.
A man who could tear lions with his bare hands could not defeat the weakness of his own flesh. His downfall did not come from the Philistines; it came from a heart that was open to lust. Every time Delilah pulled him closer, strength leaked out of his soul long before his hair was cut. His story reveals that sexual sin does not attack your body first — it attacks your vision, your purpose, your focus, and your destiny.
And then Solomon — the wisest man who ever lived.
The same man who built God’s temple could not build walls around his desires. He had wisdom for nations but no discipline for his own heart. His relationships with foreign women dragged him away from God until his devotion became divided. It proves that sexual immorality is not just a physical act; it is a spiritual influence that can shift your heart away from God.
These stories teach one lesson:
Sexual sin is not only physical. It is emotional, mental, spiritual, and destiny-shifting.
Sex can connect two bodies — yes.
But it also ties souls, mixes spirits, opens doors, creates attachments, and plants seeds that grow into habits, addictions, guilt, and confusion. That is why the Bible says sexual sin is a sin against your own body. It is not just “sleeping with someone.” It is giving access to places of your heart and spirit that were never meant to be shared outside God's covenant.
Modern society says, “It’s just sex.”
But the Bible shows that sex has the power to:
destroy destinies, weaken spiritual sensitivity, scatter focus, break families, produce guilt and shame, keep people in cycles they cannot explain.
If David could fall…
If Samson could be deceived…
If Solomon could be turned away from God…
What makes you /me think we can play with sexual temptation casually?
This is not fear — it is wisdom.
It is not judgment — it is reality.
And it is not about perfection — it is about awareness.
Sexual purity is not about saying “no” to sex alone; it is about saying “yes” to your destiny, your peace, your future, and your relationship with God. Sexual sin is not a joke. And sexual temptation is not something to handle with pride. Even the strongest men in Scripture fell when they underestimated it.
Butshould you and I repeat the same thing?
The answer is NO!
Where others fell, we can rise.
Where others were careless, we can be intentional.
Where others lost their way, we can build spiritual strength, boundaries, accountability, and the fear of God.
You don’t stay pure by being strong — you stay pure by being wise, intentional and setting boundaries.
And you don’t avoid sexual sin by pretending you cannot fall — you avoid it by admitting you can fall and guarding yourself.
Your purity is worth protecting.
Your destiny is worth guarding.
Your soul is worth fighting for.
Sexual purity is possible 🤍
@Adasu_d_gr8 As Painful as it is, it's not the sex that matters it's the spiritual exchange that went unnoticed during the sex that mattered more, she may have lost more than she feared the embarrassment, Sex is not just Physical Socketing it's Spiritual Stock Exchange yet we're so Ignorant.!
My friend kept saying no to this guy right from their school days. She finally accepted him after years of persistence with the condition of no sex before marriage.
The guy was already working, so she thought he would be ready for marriage.
He continued disturbing her for sex even after the conditions, but she stood on her NO.
After three months of dating, he proposed to her in public, kneeling down & offering her ring, "will you marry me?" With camera everywhere.
After the proposal, the relationship became known to everyone, he threatened to end it if she would not give in to sex since they were already planning their wedding.
My friend being scared of the embarrassment of ending a relationship many important people in her life were aware of gave in.
He slept with my friend & dumped her that same day💔.
People should know that proposal is not marriage. We will soon get married is not marriage.
If they can't wait, let them go.
A man will go any length just to sleep with you. If you're not wise, he'll succeed.
Every book of the Bible in a single phrase:
Genesis - The people of God
Exodus - The exit of God’s people
Leviticus - The priests of God
Numbers - The wandering of God’s people
Deuteronomy - The second law of God
Joshua - The advancement of God’s nation
Judges - The deterioration of God’s nation
Ruth - The preservation of God’s line
I and II Samuel - The choosing of God’s king
I and II Kings - The history of God’s kings and the people’s kings
I and II Chronicles - An alternate history of God’s kings and the people’s kings
Ezra - God’s law and temple restored
Nehemiah - God’s city rebuilt
Esther - God’s nation preserved
Job - God’s wisdom on suffering
Psalms - God’s wisdom on worship
Proverbs - God’s wisdom
Ecclesiastes - God’s wisdom on emptiness
Song of Solomon - God’s wisdom on sexuality
Isaiah - God’s prophet of redemption
Jeremiah - God’s prophet of repentance
Lamentations - God’s prophet weeps as God’s city burns
Ezekiel - God’s prophet of return
Daniel - God’s prophet of revelation
Hosea - Israel and God’s mercy
Joel - Israel and God’s judgment
Amos - Israel and God’s rebuke
Obadiah - Israel and God’s enemies
Jonah - Israel and God’s grace
Micah - Israel and God’s uniqueness
Nahum - Israel and God’s anger
Habakkuk - Israel and God’s presence
Zephaniah - Israel and God’s redemption
Haggai - Israel and God’s house
Zechariah - Israel and God’s visions
Malachi - Israel and God’s money
Matthew - Jesus is the fulfillment
Mark - Jesus is the victor
Luke - Jesus our brother
John - Jesus is God
Acts - Jesus’ church begins and overcomes
Romans - Jesus’ Church Victorious over ignorance
I Corinthians - Jesus’ Church Victorious over sin
II Corinthians - Jesus’ Church Victorious over Attackers
Galatians - Jesus’ Church victorious over legalism
Ephesians - Jesus’ Church victorious through Jesus, Himself
Philippians - Jesus’ Church victorious over selfishness
Colossians - Jesus’ Church victorious over heresy
I Thessalonians - Jesus’ Church Victorious through persecution to the End
II Thessalonians - Jesus’ church victorious through deliverance from evil
I Timothy - God’s pastors and leading well
II Timothy - God’s pastors and suffering well
Titus - God’s pastors and teaching well
Philemon - God’s righteous restoration
Hebrews - Jesus followers hold him over everything in faith
James - Jesus followers and righteous living
I Peter - Jesus followers and holiness during suffering
II Peter - Jesus followers and knowledge leading to righteousness
I John - Jesus followers and knowing that you are saved
II John - Jesus followers and overcoming false teaching
III John - Jesus followers and living in love
Jude - Jesus followers and persevering to the end
Revelation - Jesus comes back and wins in the end
I wish somebody would’ve taught me this before I started reading my Bible.
If you want to know who Jesus is, read the book of John.
If you want to go deeper into your identity in Christ, read the book of Ephesians.
If you want to learn how to live in holiness in a GODLESS culture… read the book of 1 Corinthians.
If you want to have wisdom for life, read the book of Proverbs.
If you want to know the origin of the universe and everything that exists, and why the world is broken today, read the book of Genesis.
If you want to understand the Gospel and learn what you should believe as a Christian, read the book of Romans.
If you want to understand why life without God has no meaning (even if you achieve success, status, money, and pleasure…) read Ecclesiastes.
If you want to learn how to find joy in the midst of your trial and suffering, read Philippians.
If you want to hear how the church was born and what the first Christians did through the power of the Holy Spirit, read the book of Acts.
If you want to learn how to put your faith into practice, read the book of James.
If you want to learn how to pray with honesty, even in the midst of lament, read the book of Psalms.
If you want to see a preview of what will happen in the future and remind yourself that, in the end, Christ wins every battle, read the book of Revelation.
St Jerome was right when he said: “The Scriptures are shallow enough for a babe to come and drink without fear of drowning…. and deep enough for a theologian to swim in without ever touching the bottom"
You CANNOT read the Bible and not have it change your life.
HOW TO DRAW CLOSER TO GOD
1. Start your mornings with prayer.
Invite God into every day.
2. Open your Bible before touching your phone.
3. Talk to God about what's heavy on your heart.
4. Practice gratitude daily.
5. Stop stressing about what you can't change.
6. Thank God for small blessings throughout the day.
7. Let go of the bitterness you've been holding onto.
8. Talk to God about everything.
9. Fast from what feeds your flesh more than your faith.
10. Spend more time in His Word, not just in your thoughts.
11. Stop giving time to things that pull you away from Him.
12. Spend time with people who push you closer to Jesus.
13. Don't isolate; you need community to grow.
14. Be kind to yourself, grace is part of growth.
15. End the day in prayer: reflect, repent, and thank Him.
One of the Biggest Lesson that you will learn in life is that NOBODY CARES ABOUT you.
Your spouse may love you, but that’s conditional.
Your family may love you but that’s cos they got no choice cos you blood.
Your friends may love you but that’s cos y’all are acquainted.
Only GOD and your MOTHER/FATHER will love you UNCONDITIONALLY in this life.
Don’t joke with your parents !
I want you to know that:
• God still opens doors you didn’t knock on.
• What you prayed in tears, He heard in full.
• Delay is not denial. He is still arranging it.
• The battle you can’t see, He is already fighting.
• He doesn’t forget a promise because the wait got long.
• The closed door was protection, not punishment.
• He knows the ending while you’re still in the middle.
• Peace is not the absence of trouble. It is His presence in it.
• What left was making room. What is coming fits.
• He is not late. He is precise.
• Put Him first and the rest stops competing for your peace.
• Strength is not found in doing more. It is found in staying with Him.
If God is good, why does He allow suffering?
This is the question that has driven more people away from faith than any other. It deserves an honest answer, not a slogan.
So let's state it at full strength. If God is all-powerful, He could stop suffering. If He is all-good, He would want to. Yet children die of cancer, tsunamis sweep away whole villages, and innocent people are tortured. So either God isn't powerful, isn't good, or isn't there. The argument is usually traced back to the ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus, and David Hume sharpened it in the eighteenth century. Dostoevsky gave it its most painful form when he had one of his characters say that no future harmony could ever be worth the tears of a single tortured child.
Christians who brush this off with "God has a plan" haven't felt its weight. So let's feel it, and then look closer.
First, notice what the objection assumes. To call the world's suffering evil, you need a standard of good that the world falls short of. C.S. Lewis said his own case against God rested on the universe being cruel and unjust. Then he asked where he'd gotten the idea of "just" in the first place. If there is no God, suffering isn't evil. It's just nature doing what it does. The protest against suffering is itself a cry that things are not as they should be.
Second, much of the suffering in this world comes from human hands. Love that cannot be refused isn't love, and a world with real freedom is a world where people can choose cruelty. Scripture goes further and says the whole creation was subjected to futility and groans under it (Romans 8:20-22). The Bible doesn't pretend this world is the way God made it.
Third, "I can't see a reason" is not the same as "there is no reason." Job demanded an answer from God, and God never gave him one. Instead, God asked him where he was when the foundations of the earth were laid (Job 38:4). Joseph, sold into slavery by his own brothers, said years later, "You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good" (Genesis 50:20). He couldn't see that for twenty years.
And here's where Christianity says something no other answer does. It doesn't explain every suffering. It claims that God did not stay outside of it. Jesus stood at the tomb of His friend Lazarus and wept (John 11:35), even though He knew He was about to raise him. Then He went to the cross and entered the worst of it: betrayal, torture, abandonment, and death. We do not have a God who cannot sympathize with our weakness (Hebrews 4:15).
The story isn't finished, either. Scripture promises a day when God will wipe away every tear, and death and pain will be no more (Revelation 21:4).
So if you're asking this question from inside the suffering, here's what I can't give you: a neat reason for your specific pain. But I can point you to a God who has nail scars. He doesn't explain suffering from a distance. He carried it, and He has promised to end it.
Have you ever wrestled with this question?
FOUR DANGERS OF SEXUAL IMMORALITY — AND HOW TO ESCAPE
Sexual immorality is not just a battle with the body. It can affect your spiritual sensitivity, discipline, relationships, purpose and ability to discern the voice of God.
The Bible says, “Flee fornication.” — 1 Corinthians 6:18
Notice the instruction: FLEE. Some battles are not won by standing near temptation and trying to prove how strong you are.
1. IT WEAKENS YOUR SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY
You can still attend church, pray, sing and serve while gradually becoming less sensitive to the things of God.
Repeatedly entertaining sin can create a cycle of guilt, secrecy and compromise that makes prayer uncomfortable and obedience difficult.
2. IT CAN DESTROY WHAT TOOK YEARS TO BUILD
One moment of uncontrolled desire can damage a reputation, relationship, marriage, ministry or career.
Samson carried extraordinary grace, but he repeatedly refused to master his desires. Eventually, his compromise became an entry point for destruction. — Judges 16:19
3. IT CAN TURN DESIRE INTO A MASTER
What begins as pleasure can become bondage.
When you repeatedly feed an appetite, eventually the appetite begins demanding to be fed. What you thought you controlled can begin controlling you. — John 8:34
4. IT CAN DISTORT YOUR VIEW OF LOVE
Sexual immorality can train a person to pursue bodies without understanding covenant, responsibility, honor and sacrificial love.
God designed sexual intimacy within the covenant of marriage, where there is faithfulness, responsibility and honor. — Hebrews 13:4
SO HOW DO YOU ESCAPE?
You cannot overcome sexual immorality by promises made in your own strength.
You need grace, truth, boundaries and daily surrender to the Holy Spirit.
Flee what feeds the temptation.
Guard what enters your mind.
Choose your relationships wisely.
Strengthen your prayer life.
And if you fall, repent quickly.
Do not remain in hiding.
Do not run away from God because you have fallen. Run back to Him.
Confess your sin. Reject the pattern. Rebuild your secret place. Receive His grace and keep walking.
I pray for you: May God give you the grace and strength to overcome every sexual temptation. May mercy speak where you have fallen, and may the power of the Holy Spirit strengthen you to walk in purity, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
#Inspiration #Purity
TODAY, LET US PRAY THE PRAYER OF JABEZ. 🙏🏽🔥
“Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, saying, ‘Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.’ And God granted his request.” — 1 Chronicles 4:10
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, bless me indeed.
Enlarge my territory. Expand my capacity, my influence, my opportunities, my relationships, and my reach. Take me beyond the limitations of my current season and entrust greater things into my hands.
Lord, let Your hand be with me. I don't want the blessing without Your presence. I don't want increase without Your guidance. Lead me, order my steps, protect me, strengthen me, and give me wisdom to steward everything You place in my hands.
Open doors that no man can shut. Connect me to the right people. Give me opportunities that are aligned with Your purpose. Close every door that is not from You.
Father, keep me from evil. Deliver me from every trap, temptation, deception, wrong relationship, wrong decision, and scheme of the enemy. Keep my heart pure and my motives right.
Bless me so that I can become a blessing to others.
Make my life an answer to someone's prayer. Use my resources, influence, gifts, and opportunities for the advancement of Your Kingdom.
And above everything else, let Jesus Christ be glorified through my life.
Lord, enlarge my territory without allowing me to lose You.
Bless me without allowing the blessing to become my god.
Increase me without allowing pride to take over my heart.
Give me influence without compromise.
Give me resources without greed.
Give me visibility without losing intimacy with You.
Father, bless me indeed.
Enlarge my territory.
Let Your hand be with me.
Keep me from evil.
And make me a blessing to many.
In Jesus Christ's mighty name, Amen. 🙏🏽🔥
If you believe this prayer, pray it over your life today.
1 Chronicles 4:10.
I saw a video of a widow explaining her frustrations in retrieving a meager N395k from her late husband's account.
Her husband died over a year ago.
My fellow Nigerian men, we need to talk.
If anything happens to you today, can your wife confidently say:
“I know the banks my husband uses.
I know where his important documents are.
I know about his investments, pension and insurance.
I know who to contact.”
If not, please read this below:
A woman losing her husband is already dealing with enough pain.
She shouldn't also have to start asking friends, relatives and colleagues whether they know where her husband kept his money.
“Which bank was he using?”
“Did he have another account?”
“He mentioned an investment somewhere, but where?”
“Where are the land documents?”
“Did he have insurance?”
These are questions that can become overwhelming when someone is already grieving.
Brothers, financial secrecy is not a legacy.
Sit down with your wife and explain the important parts of your financial life.
Let her know your banks, investments, pension arrangements, insurance policies, properties, major debts and where important documents can be found.
Prepare a will and keep relevant beneficiary information updated.
And please, this doesn't mean dropping your ATM PIN and every password in a WhatsApp message.
Keep sensitive information secure.
The goal is for your wife to know what exists, where the records are and how to begin the appropriate process if you're no longer around.
You worked hard for what you have.
Don't let poor preparation make it unnecessarily difficult for your wife and children to deal with what you leave behind.
Talk about money.
Organise your documents.
Plan your estate.
Protect your family.
I have written this thread on the assumption that a man will die before his wife.
Which for me, should be a good prayer for a man who married a good wife, like myself.
Being a responsible husband isn't only about providing for your family while you're here.
It's also about making sure they are not left confused and helpless when you're gone.
End.
I believe that when God wants to make you successful, He first takes away your comfort, tests your patience, isolates you, and challenges your faith. Before He provides the life you dream of, He builds the version of you that can handle it. He’s not punishing you, He’s preparing you.
My friend took his girlfriend out, after eating, the bill was 45k and he jokingly asked her to pay.
Girl said she can't waste such money.
The guy asked her if 45K was a waste on someone she loves
"Yes na!" She replied. Guy paid the money and ended the relationship there. He said someone might think he over did it.
7 THINGS A FATHER MUST UNDERSTAND
1. The more present the father, the more confident the child.
2. The more patient the father, the more the children open up.
3. The more he listens, the more they trust him.
4. The more respect he shows their mother, the more they learn respect.
6. The more he encourages, the braver they become.
7. The more he says sorry when wrong, the more humble they grow.
IT ALL STARTS WITH A PRESENT FATHER
10 Things That Help Make A Great Marriage!
1. lots of God
2. lots of love
3. lots of sex
4. lots of talk
5. lots of touch
6. lots of patience
7. lots of kindness
8. lots of forgiveness
9. lots of compromise
10. lots of faithfulness