One hospital bill can wipe out 5 years of your savings.
Don't just hustle without taking care of your health
Don't sacrifice your sleep
Don't sacrifice your diet.
When you're looking for things to protect, choose your health first.
Habits I noticed in women who have genuinely healed
1. They stopped explaining themselves to people who had already decided who they were. They understood that clarity is not owed to everyone. Some people are not asking questions. They are building cases.
2. They have one standard they do not negotiate on. Not a list of rules. One deep knowing of what they will not accept. And that one knowing removes the exhausting daily decision of where their line is.
3. They feel the grief and they name it out loud to themselves. "I am sad today." "I am scared today." That one sentence creates just enough distance from the feeling to keep it from becoming their entire identity
4. They stopped trying to heal in the same environment that wounded them. They changed the inputs. The people. The conversations. The content they consumed. They understood that you cannot think your way out of a room you have never physically left.
5. They allowed the anger. They did not perform forgiveness before they had processed the rage. They let the anger do its sacred work of showing them what they would never allow again.
Igbo people do not add iru to egusi soup.
Igbo people do not add iru to okra soup.
Igbo people do not add iru to ogbono soup.
Igbo people do not cook with iru.
Igbo people do not add sugar to yam porridge.
And Igbo people do not pour beans inside pot, add water and ingredients, then start cooking it like that. We cook it halfway first, pour away the first water like rice, then add fresh water before adding ingredients and seasoning.
Yes, Igbo people use crayfish to cook almost everything apart from stew and you people should try it.
I genuinely do not know where some of you learnt your cooking from.
all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change
I remember dating someone who would often share her feelings and expectations with me. She was essentially telling me how to love and treat her. Although I listened, I didn't truly apply what she said because I was still figuring myself out and assumed she'd always be around. To my surprise, she eventually left and ceased all communication. At first, I felt betrayed and harbored resentment towards her. However, I soon realized that she had been communicating her needs all along, while I had chosen to act according to my own whims. The lesson here is: if someone consistently communicates with you and your actions don't align with their messages, don't be taken aback when they choose to distance themselves. This holds true for all types of relationships, including friendships.
cutting people off feels different now. it’s not anger, it’s grief. like dang… I really wanted you here, but your actions showed me I’m not safe with you.