being messy then avoiding communication isn't protecting your peace, its avoiding accountability. people love to try and blame others when really they're the source of their own damn problems!!!
Just saw a TikTok where a woman said “do you actually want it or do you want other people to see that you have it?” and WHEW! I feel like more ppl need to ask themselves this, because what they THINK they want, isn’t what they actually want. What they really desire is acceptance.