they stopped blaming their parents. their ex. their childhood. not because none of it hurt, but because they figured out they're the only one who can fix it now. the day you own your part is the day you get your power back.
yet again husband and I are having trouble getting stuff done bc we can't stop talking. this is a common problem for us. accidentally staying up too late because our conversation is too interesting, etc
I said "ok let's stop talking for now" and he agreed. minutes later I called out "hey I just got a crazy idea" without thinking. ah shit. he came over to talk with me. we agreed we should stop after this one last thing. I told him about it, and then right away he started on something else. I said no we have to stop. I told him we should try complete silence for 30min to break the cycle. that's where we're at now. TBD if we will survive another 25min of this
Tbh sometimes you need to experience betrayal to learn true self love and self reliance.. I lowkey believe if you’re too much of a people pleaser the universe will consistently send shady people to you until you learn the lesson