WOMAN TO WOMAN: Let's normalise telling people "It seems you don't have the capacity to love me in the ways I want and need, so let's not continue this" and leave at that.
as a hyper independent girly (to a fault) i do not like asking for sht it makes me uncomfortable. that's why i like men who just DO. don't ask, just figure out what i need and want and DO IT.
Nothing is sexier than a man who knows what he wants and chooses you loudly. Morning calls. Good night messages. Quick replies. No mind games. No leaving you guessing. He gives time, attention and real effort. He makes you feel safe, valued, and noticed. And when he's committed, he's all in, on you and you alone.
Nobody talks about how humbling it is to return. Again. Same prayer. Same apology. Same grace. But God never says, “Didn’t we already do this?” He receives you every time like it’s the first. Grace isn’t fragile. It was built with your weakness in mind.
ladies, let's normalize telling men, "I'm not interested anymore because the way you treat me makes me feel less than the woman I truly am".
STOP SETTLING!!
Once l've addressed the situation multiple times & it's no changed behavior, I stop caring. It's above me now. People treat you exactly how they feel about you & on top of that you heard me & seen how it affected me the first time. At some point in life you have to know your worth & stop letting people play with you like that.
Even in friendships mind your business. If they don’t tell you, they probably don’t want you to know, or just not yet. You are not entitled to knowing what’s going on at every point in your friend’s life.