Being a Head Coach is HARD Work.
I have talked to MANY coaches over my long career.
Here are 9 Things Coaches Want Parents to Understand.
1: We CARE about your Child
Even if your child doesn’t get much varsity playing time, we care about them. Nothing is ever personal. We love your child. Everyone has a Role. They are all different. But they are all important. Help us celebrate their role.
2: TIME
There are only two people who understand the time commitment of a coach. The Coach and their Spouse. We are always “on,” constantly thinking about our team. We sacrifice our Family time to be with your child. We don’t need a pat on the back. Just respect this fact.
3: We LOVE this job.
But it is a hard job. Please don’t steal our Joy. Our Passion. Our Commitment. We are losing too many coaches. Help Support us.
4: Coaches want to WIN more than you do.
We are very competitive. We put our heart and soul into this job. We are not perfect. Either are you. No one is. Strategy or X’s and O’s matter much less than you think. We are at practice every day. Trust what we see and do.
5: Everything is EARNED.
You get what you earn. Don’t blame the coach. Encourage your child to be committed. It is your child’s job to get in the weight room, shoot in the driveway, go to the gym or field, etc. Encourage them to do this. You get what you earn.
6: Trust the PROCESS
Team Sports are the ultimate lab setting for life. There will be bumps in the road. It is guaranteed. It is part of the process. Accept this fact. Trust the Process. The life lessons learned will last a lifetime.
7: Winning is HARD
Other teams want to win too. Other teams put time in too. Other teams compete too. The season is a grind, and the process is more important than the prize. Learning how to win…and how to lose…is an important part of this process.
8: Your child GETS it.
Your child understands. They are at every practice. They know their strengths. They know their weaknesses. They know their role. Don’t feed their youthful insecurities by questioning the coach. This will hurt their experience and the team.
9: Finally, and Most Importantly, this is your child’s experience, not yours.
This is important. Let them enjoy the experience with your support. Don’t judge them. Don’t be critical. Just be there. Tell them you LOVE watching them play. Be a fan of the TEAM.
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Have been bad at remembering to update this season but today was a special one. We were down big in a important match 15-22. This team found a way to claw back and EARN our spot in Gold tomorrow!
Teamwork makes the dream work! Excited for what tomorrow brings! @NOVAJuniors
@NOVAJuniors 17 Gold goes 3-0 on day one of MEQ! Played great volleyball all day and had some game changing plays from Bree! Strong serves at the line really kept up competitive.
Excited to see what day 2 has in store!
@NOVAJuniors 17 Gold goes 4-0 on day one!
Headed to gold tomorrow! Excited about the day! Again huge blocking day all around. Love a intimidating net presence
@NOVAJuniors 17 Gold starts 2-0 a lot of fun volleyball and love watching out pins ball out. Huge day for our net players who are having a BLOCK PARTY 🎉🎉
17 Gold showed some grit today but fell up short. Losing in 5 21-25,25-5,21-25,25-7, 12-15.
Great offensive attempts just missed a handful of opportunities. Looking forward to the repool at 6:30.
Rock N’ Rumble final standings….
18 NAVY finished 9th in 18 OPEN
17 NAVY finished 9th in 17 OPEN
17 GOLD finished 13th in 17 PREMIER
16 NAVY finished 9th in 16 OPEN
16 GOLD finished 5th in 16 PREMIER
#WTD#theNOVAway
@NOVAJuniors 17 Gold goes 2-0 on day to for first place in bronze. Lots of highs this weekend and a great building block for us. Loved the energy all weekend! Can’t wait to get back in the gym on Tuesday!
@NOVAJuniors 17 Gold goes 2-0 on day to for first place in bronze. Lots of highs this weekend and a great building block for us. Loved the energy all weekend! Can’t wait to get back in the gym on Tuesday!
Tough finish 1-1 for the first pool but LOVED the grit we showed. Trying to establish some little details but overall super excited to get the second pool underway.
17 Gold starting rocking and rumbling (love a good pun). 1-0 and LOVED the grit we showed after dropping the first set. Onto Eastside 17.1! @NOVAJuniors
Felt great being back in @NOVAJuniors gym for the official start of the club season! Excited for this year and the standard of play being set! #Year4#theNOVAway#WTD
7 things that will hurt your team:
1. Energy Vampires
2. Complaining
3. Ego
4. Selfishness
5. Jealousy
6. Resentment
7. Pessimism
7 things that will help your team:
1. Love
2. Encouragement
3. Vulnerability
4. Selflessness
5. Unity
6. Communication
7. Optimism