Your Relationship School

I teach people how to date logically and smartly. I help them step into their power by choosing from their intrinsic worth instead of chasing from their wounds.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

I just published 9 Green Flags In Dating https://t.co/jQwlOFQjYa

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Choose people who choose your nervous system.

Choose people who are conscious of the impact of their actions on your well-being.

Choose people who don't make you question where you stand with them.

Choose people whose words and actions consistently demonstrate, "I love you."

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Learn to lose excitement for people who are inconsistent.

Your attraction towards someone isn't a good enough reason for investing in them.

Your mindset should be, "I was really into you before but having seen your inconsistent energy, I'm not so sure about you anymore."

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

"To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be." - Heidi Priebe

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

You will never lose the right relationship by having a conversation about your needs, boundaries, standards, and expectations. Difficult conversations only "scare off" the people who aren't meant for you.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

If you start feeling worthless when someone rejects you, the feeling of worthlessness has nothing to do with the other person.

That feeling has already existed within you and the devastation that you feel after external rejection is just highlighting your internal rejection.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

The problem isn't in you getting attracted to emotionally unavailable folks, the problem is in you putting attraction on a giant pedestal and assuming that if you are attracted to someone, it means you must plan your babies with them.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

"The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth he can accept about himself without running away." - Leland Val Van De Wall

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

When you are considering ending a toxic relationship, don't just evaluate the cost of ending it, do a detailed analysis of the cost of staying involved too.

Once you recognise that the cost of staying far outweighs the cost of leaving, you will know what to do.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Learn to lose excitement for people who are inconsistent.

Your attraction towards someone isn't a good enough reason for investing in them.

Your mindset should be, "I was really into you before but having seen your inconsistent energy, I'm not so sure about you anymore."

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Before you label yourself as the 'anxious one' in your relationship, objectively evaluate whether your partner is emotionally available.

If you have an unavailable partner, your anxiety is not a result of your 'attachment style,' it is a result of your poor selection criteria.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

"Nobody is busier than a person that's not interested in you." - Unknown

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Someone who doesn't want you back cannot be an attractive or interesting person to you not because you are entitled to everyone desiring you but because your time and energy are sacred and should ONLY be invested on people who see the magic in you. 💫

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Being addicted to chasing emotionally unavailable people is a convenient way of staying emotionally unavailable but blaming only other people for their unavailability instead of acknowledging our own emotional unavailability.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

No matter how many books you read, coaching sessions you take, meditation practices you do, if you are not going 'no contact' with someone you are addicted to (when it is possible), everything else that you do will be inconsequential and insignificant.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

When you are intensely attracted to someone who isn't good for you and constantly reaching out to them, ask yourself,

"Are you reaching out to them because you "care" for them/"love" them OR because you don't know how to stay away from them and function without them?"

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Your interest in someone should never be unconditional to the point that even if they are wishy-washy, flaky, inconsistent, unenthusiastic, you remain interested.

Losing interest for individuals who demonstrate low interest towards you is a dating skill worth building.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

There's hardly any flag which is as green as, "Don't worry, we will figure it out together."

Being patient with someone who is actively trying to get better is one of the purest forms of love. ❤️

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Believing that the person who keeps harming you is your "soul connection"/"soulmate" is immature at best and self-destructive at worst.

[Your Relationship School @CoachHritik]

Words: 'I don't want a relationship/I am not interested in you in a romantic way.'

Actions: Treating you like a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Instead of assuming that they are into you because 'actions speak louder than words,' get clarity.

Remember, attention ≠ intention.