Colorblind Tiger

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@shipwreckedcrew Beggars can't be choosers.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@GRONreturns @tallsnail Good question! It's usually because the granddaughters are normies—their main interests are fitness, their own careers, or domesticity in general, which is fine! But not great for him.

It's surprisingly hard to find girls who are conservative Christians AND into fantasy. 🦄

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

Please consider whether your gift is an imposition. It's hard enough for millennials/gen Z to get houses, let alone houses with ample storage. We've been looking forward to curating our own space for too long, and gifting us things we'd never buy ourselves takes our control away.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@BeepBoo09508727 @Alicia_Bittle_ I may be way too invested in this, but I identify with not wanting to feel too familiar, if that's the case here.

In person, I am super agreeable and find it difficult to say anything that might displease, so as much as possible, I just avoid people that require bluntness.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@BeepBoo09508727 @Alicia_Bittle_ Yes, & besides that, the online response must be confusing to someone who, by her own words, is "a very literal person," because most comments say "yass girl, be yo weird self," & so "weirdness" could be positive or negative. But you have to compromise that to appeal to normies.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@Cellulanus2 @TheNicholasWolf So many writers hate writing endings. I often wish they would just hand their last book off to a committee of their loyalest fans if they're losing steam and tempted to slapdash it.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@agustinavcid Yes, exactly! I always took it as female camaraderie. It also feels humble, assumes the shared value of prudence, and is an easy segway into other conversation topics.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@Alicia_Bittle_ I'm not saying the recipient responded well, BUT if she had tried to indicate that she wasn't ready for such intimacy and the OP didn't take the hint to back off, eventually the attempts are going to get blunter until they finally land, and it may feel cruel, but clear is kind.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@Alicia_Bittle_ After some of the OP's follow-ups, I suspect that the recipient's reaction may not have been directly about the gift itself, but at the jarringly intimate nature of it. The OP admits she doesn't pick up subtle signals well, so how do we know she presented the friend accurately?

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

When your only hobby is quilting, every friend looks like they need a blanket.

[LP @lee_lei_lp]

@MoreAvocadoes I see this is crafting communities all the time. "I spent 100 hours on a blanket for my acquaintance and she just put it in the closet. It's so mean for her to not appreciate my hard work!" Well, you gave it to her to show off a talent, not so she would have something she wanted.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@unicorncharmd @lee_lei_lp @MoreAvocadoes Would autistic women be open to suggestions? Or do they want to keep shattering their souls when their vulnerable gestures are turned down?

The OP's refusal to see anything foolish on her own part in this is what's hard to have sympathy for. It would be endearing otherwise.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@michaelolsen @themaddierune @oliveegger A beggar *asking* for impersonal, liquid currency and you giving them a larger quantity of the thing they directly asked for is pretty far from what we're talking about here.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@taraji_bsw @themaddierune @oliveegger "I want to read [a sample of] your [already done body of] work someday"

vs

"I want to [receive] your work someday"

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@themaddierune @oliveegger Why would you jump to writing her a new work though? Why not just show her something you'd already done? That way you could get a clue if she even liked your style.

Not saying her reaction was polite, but your grievous misinterpretation would be impossible for her to anticipate.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@influencertrash @themaddierune Seriously - some humility & humor would do her wonders. I appreciate when neurodivergent people make self-deprecating jokes. It's approachable, relatable, and resilient.

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@sarahpeathatsme How would one prevent this situation from emerging in a gracious way? "I'd love to read your work sometime" seems noncommittal to me, because it implied something the writer had already done and was no trouble to share. How could she predict that she could be so misinterpreted?

[Colorblind Tiger @ColorblindTiger]

@oliveegger If you know you're weird, maybe you can choose to laugh at how you come across to other people, instead of cry? I think the lady you're referring to takes herself too seriously. It would also make her way easier to get along with if she saw some humor in her own awkwardness.