So an American all the way in the USA has a better grasp of this entire situation than mimosa bantus here and all the continent of Africa??
This is why I accept the โAmericans of Africaโ attempted โinsultโ, they have more sense, pride and self respect than the rest of these Africans.๐๐พ
๐ ah brother I must have offended him some way, his feelings are valid. we never know what traumas we trigger in people when we speak, even if itโs not our intention to! so itโs just best to apologise. Gotta give the legend some grace ๐๐พ
There wouldnโt be a need for these movements in the first place if law enforcement was enforcing the law.
Do you think the people just woke up one day and out of boredom decided to march?
Our people are gatvol
Guysโฆ sorry for this very unsolicited advice but having recently lost my mom and now having to consolidate all of her affairs, (lucky for me, sis was quite organised but there are still some gaps weโre filling because we didnโt know), I have some tips for those who have a chance to try to get organised.
If your parents are still alive, hereโs what you can TRY to do (cos I know some of them are very untrusting about stuff and will think youโre trying to come for ilefa prematurely ๐ฅบ๐ซฃ) but honestly, the peace Iโm yearning for right now will be worth the effort Iโm advising you to employ.
1. Prepare a file that has the following:
- Parentsโ ID copies
- Parentsโ Marriage Certificate (even the one from the lobola meeting)
- Parentsโ Divorce Decree if divorced
- All title deeds reflecting their names and car ownership papers
- Municipal bills for the properties and logins to the e-portals for the municipal accounts (this is one of the most stressful things to sort out when the owner is no longer aliveโฆYOH!)
- Bank statements (you can locate debit orders)
- Their pension fund administrators details
- Any business registration certificates and shareholders certificates
- Copies of all their latest policy schedules
- If your parents trust you and you wonโt scam them, A list of their logins to their email addresses
- A list of their financial advisors and lawyers and doctors and their contact details
- A list of their creditors and contact details
- A list of their debtors and contact details
- An asset registry with a list of all their assets
- A list of their monthly bills (Dstv, telkom etc and the statements)
2. If this is at all possible, it will save a lot of headache
- Have a meeting with your parents and your siblings to allocate roles and responsibilities in the event of death and record it (written usually or visually if theyโre okay with that)
- Write down what their wishes are for their send offs (where do they want to be buried, do they want cremation, singing on singing, which church must conduct etc etc and where the money for all this is coming from). Yea, they wonโt be here to dictate to you (๐ซฉ) but, it will save you a lot of stress just doing what umufi asked for and everyone (especially the aunts and uncles) know it to be true
3. When your parent does pass away, have the following in the โdeceased fileโ
- Death certificate (and certified copies)
- Hospital or Coroners report or notice of death
- Updated ID with stamp saying Deceased
- Burial notice
- Undertaker Notice
Lastlyโฆ get your parents to draft a will with a lawyer and nominate an executor whilst they are still alive ๐ญ๐ฅบ๐ฎโ๐จ if you can invest in this, it will ease the administrative burden on you guys who have to take over when they are no longer alive.
Losing a parent you are close to is one of the most painful things youโll ever experience in your existenceโฆ help yourself by not having to be in pain and highly frustrated because things werenโt organised when you had the chance.
* I know this is a very difficult subject to tackle at homeโฆand itโs even more difficult to accept the reality of deathโฆ but if you do have the privilege of a good relationship with your parents, just try. For everyone else who doesnโt get to do this, Iโm really sorry ๐ซ I wish things could be better for you โค๏ธโ๐ฉน
I hope this helps many people.
You literally have one of the most romantic dudes out there who does everything to make your life easier and you donโt see it because he doesnโt buy flowers ๐