If you truly love someone, you love them twice. The first time it's all about attraction. Their smile, voice and presence. But slowly the curtain lifts. You see their scars, insecurities, mood swings, trauma and moral differences. It's no longer perfect. It's real. If you can still love them, without filters, without expectations, that's not infatuation. That's a love of understanding. The kind that stays and grows.
i think a lot of people genuinely want love, but they donβt always want the responsibilities that come with it. Love sounds beautiful in theory until it asks for consistency, communication, forgiveness, vulnerability, and sacrifice.
A relationship is meant to make you happier, not happy. To add value to your life, not save you from your life. To add ease to your path, not burden your path. No one is coming to save you. But I do hope you choose the one who believes in you when you struggle to believe in yourself.
Birds only sing when they feel safe, thus signaling on a deep, cellular level that you are safe too. Their frequencies calm the nervous system, lowering cortisol and anxiety. Birdsong is natureβs medicine.