For that, I’d like to advise all of you not to trapped in obsessive thoughts and never view others with suspicion. Being suspicious of others merely means that you lack self-confidence!
SUSPICION CAUSES A FAMILY BREAKUP
This is a real-life story. There was once a wealthy lady, who reared a pet parrot at home. For a period of time, whenever she got home, the parrot would, without fail, regurgitate this phrase, “Be patient…hang on right there, be more patient…”
Think about it, this is how we let our personal issues take control of our lives. Do you know the outcome of this story?
Not wanting to let go, this lady continued to quarrel with her husband, only to see both of them eventually go their separate ways.
Latching on this, this wealthy lady engaged in constant arguments with her husband and demanded for a divorce. When the court requested for more concrete evidence, unbelievably, she took the parrot to the court.
This evoked her suspicion towards her husband; she suspected that the parrot might have picked up this phrase after overhearing her husband’s phone conversation with his new flame.
We must learn to help others achieve their goals.
Helping others to receive blessings is to help ourselves accrue merits.
Helping others to acquire merits
is to help ourselves accrue blessings.
As such, we must cherish the time we have in the human realm. Thoroughly change ourselves with diligence and cultivate our mind to become increasingly kind; repay all our karmic debts in order to be truly carefree.
We humans have come to this world because of that so as to repay the karmic debts that we have incurred in our past lives. Hence, if a person wishes to change themselves, it is integral for them to understand everything about karmic obstacles.
In this society, no matter what we do; there will always be comments and judgements from others. If you pay special attention to other people’s comments on your views and thoughts, you will develop a sense of fear in whatever you do.
Regardless of what others say, this a negative mentality making our lives very exhausting. So long as you are truly cultivating and not putting on an act, other people’s views are just passing clouds.
Thus, many people do not succeed because they developed anxieties in this way. Some people live their entire lives based on what others say or see of them. They are afraid that other people might criticise them.
Form or formlessness cannot be
separated from the notion of a form.
Only by completely eliminating
our attachment to self can the form
disappear amidst formlessness.