Not afraid of the seen red flags. Afraid of the things people do and justify in thier mind as okay that could hurt others and just walk around like that. Hurting people thinking its okay and even right.
y'all are terrified of initiating conversation after conflict. i'm not your mother. i'm not whatever ex that used to blow up on you. i'm an adult that wants to hear you, be heard, and heal what's happened between us. silence is not a resolution.
One of the hardest parts of childhood neglect is spending your life trying to be picked as a priority. It’s realizing you become close to people with the intent to prove your worth rather than be met where you are. The healing is not in new people, but rescuing that child.
Maturity is raising your emotional intelligence so manipulators can't play mind games with you, accepting your flaws so toxic people can't use them against you, saying "no" so takers can't take from you, and remembering exactly what happened so narcissists can't gaslight you.
@NickTheLuvCoach To be fair the lord presented eve to Adam. He didn't have to find her. The lord brought HER to HIM in her COMPLETENESS. Point being focus on being a proverbs 31 woman ladies and men focus on God and leadership the rest will follow.
My therapist told me my ability to cut people off and self-isolate is not a skill I should be proud of - it's a trauma response rooted in never having anyone to depend on.
i genuinely do not believe people treat you how they feel about you. i believe they treat you based on the state of mind they're in. some people unintentionally hurt you because they are at war with themselves suffering, and suffering with things that has nothing to do with you.