Marriage has no formula but I’ll say this again, marry kind people goodness. “Kind” doesn’t mean quiet and reserved lol. Kindness means being thoughtful and considerate to everyone around you. Means you feel remorseful, you apologize and you communicate. When the love is no longer there or it’s shaky, it’s kindness and respect that’ll keep it going.
You’ve shouted at me/ I’ve shouted at you so I’ll apologize and not repeat it.
The real test in marriage is when it gets boring and spontaneous. Same shit everyday so find people you can get bored with. I’ll choose respect over love because when it gets boring, you’ll respect me enough not to cheat.
When you get a chronic disease or have a major setback, your spouse sticks with you because they’re kind more than they love you unlike what most people think. It’s the kindness and what’s more desirable than kindness mixing with immense unconditional love and respect?
I’ll love you when the moon is full and half,when the clouds are clear and dark. I’ll love you when the grounds are hard and baked and when they’re replenished and percolating.
Imagine giving someone your all , doing your best to be everything they want , need and desire and they only view you as a placeholder .
Some of you are genuinely shitty human beings.
Over 500 women were killed in Kenya between January 2016 and December 2023.
241 women were killed by husbands
130 were killed by boyfriends
99 were killed by strangers
Meaning more than 70% were killed by men they knew and trusted.
Very disturbing stat