Narcissists need to pretend you’re a bad person to validate the hatred they feel for envying you, so they don’t look guilty for the way they treated you.
The narcissist’s favorite gaslighting abuse tactic is to set you up to be angry and then shame you for that anger. It’s practically a form of entertainment for them.
Yea mentality of a toddler and usually raised by a narc parent. Narc is never cured even with therapy. A sad existence. A lot of them have trouble sleeping at night so be on the lookout for that. (Demons of their past be tearing their ass up😂)
A narcissist will abandon anyone—no matter how deep the bond, how long the history, or how much you’ve given—if the relationship threatens their carefully constructed illusion of being blameless.
Accountability is their breaking point.
NARCISSISTS expect everything to go back to normal, as if their actions left no scars. They invalidate your pain, minimize your experience, and act like the emotional damage they caused was just a “misunderstanding.” They want peace without accountability. Forgiveness without change. Access without growth. They expect you to smile again while you're still carrying the weight of what they did to you.
When you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, there is always a whole secret life going on behind your back. This secret life can be emotionally draining and devastating to discover. Narcissists often lead double lives, presenting a facade to their partner while secretly engaging in manipulative and exploitative behavior
The narcissist’s special skill is destroying good people. They see a good person, happy, compassionate, honest, and they begin their attack. It’s a slow, persistent chipping away of a person. They begin shaming that person. They begin sewing seeds of doubt, trying to make that person second-guess themselves. They start planting seeds of doubt in other people. Consistently eroding away their targets public image and self-esteem. They abuse their target, talk bad about their target, shame their target for doing nothing wrong. And what is their explanation? When people ask why they are doing this to their target, the narcissist says “they’re abusive”, pure projection. And that’s their excuse. And they are so adamant and aggressively bitter towards genuinely good, honest people, that witnesses think the target must’ve done something wrong, because why would anybody be so insanely and obsessively hateful towards an innocent person? And that’s what is so insane about it. Just think about that. The hatred towards good a malignant narcissist has to go that far to destroy innocent people. It’s evil.
Throwing away an entire relationship with someone who genuinely loved and accepted every part of you just to chase empty lustful connections on hookup apps is crazy
A relationship where we both realize that none of us are easy to be with, but we are willing to stay committed to understanding each other and also intentional about growing with each other.
A relationship where we both try,
and are both present.