Deane Geiken

@DLGeiken

Dad, Husband, gamer geek, gun enthusiast, Sci-Fi/fantasy fan, history re-enactor, and general all around lover of fun and frivolity.

Joined March 2014

207 Following

86 Followers

561 Posts

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

11 months ago

@JBPritzker I am not your people. You don’t give a “fat rats ass” about the people of Illinois. Bring on the National Guard! Illinois needs you @realDonaldTrump!

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

over 1 year ago

@elonmusk As a resident of Illinois, I have to say Pritzker hands down is the worst, but Newsom is a close second!

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Jason Helmes

@anymanfitness

over 2 years ago

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well. The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes. Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense. A few key takeaways from the book: A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes. Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed. We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient. Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves. We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children. Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings. You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy. You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues. You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person. The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid). One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it. Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are. Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting. Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally. The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household. This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them. But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian. In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are. Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves. Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys. Asking kids non-stop questions like: - Have you thought about self harm? - Have you thought about suicide? - Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed? Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world. It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history. There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there. It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

anymanfitness's tweet photo. Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier

This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well.

The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes.

Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense.

A few key takeaways from the book:

A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes.

Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed.

We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient.

Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves.

We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children.

Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings.

You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy.

You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues.

You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person.

The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid).

One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it.

Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are.

Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting.

Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally.

The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household.

This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them.

But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian.

In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are.

Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves.

Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys.

Asking kids non-stop questions like:

- Have you thought about self harm?
- Have you thought about suicide?
- Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed?

Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world.

It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history.

There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there.

It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

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Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

over 3 years ago

@EOGamers You are not alone! We need to take the term back!

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Chris Morgan

@rip_thomas

I am 40 years old and new to Youtube and Twitch, I am trying to see how far I can go, both in health and finances. I stream different games but DBD is my main.

DavidGoDik

@DavidGoDik

🇨🇿, delulu m0NESY, GL and G2 fan We ❤️ MalbsMd

philipjreed

@philipjreed

I've been creating all sorts and stuff and things for decades. And, with the support of others, I'll keep doing this for many years to come. Thanks, world!

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

over 3 years ago

@SenatorDurbin I am sure you were well vaccinated and wore a mask at all times and yetm here you are... oh, the irony. And no one cares anymore about COVID.

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

over 4 years ago

A dream come true to meet the legendary @WilliamShatner. To meet him and get his autograph on the J.T. Kirk bourbon bottle was an honor! Thank you for being such an awesome person! I kinda wish we could have done a shot together!

DLGeiken's tweet photo. A dream come true to meet the legendary @WilliamShatner. To meet him and get his autograph on the J.T. Kirk bourbon bottle was an honor! Thank you for being such an awesome person! I kinda wish we could have done a shot together! https://t.co/YBhqkYKZTq

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

almost 5 years ago

@EOGamers If you are doing the graphics, will you also be involved in rules reference for the game too? (outside of what you normally do for EOG? - like what you did for SOL?) If so, I am a solid for backing this game then.

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

almost 5 years ago

Some awesome gaming accessories here at @enhancebrand. Glad I stopped at your @gen_con booth! @ Indiana Convention Center https://t.co/6ZlEhc8cuY

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

almost 5 years ago

Happy #StarTrekDay !!! Live Long and prosper! #StarTrek55

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

about 5 years ago

@melissa_voyer A local maker in central Illinois. Look on Facebook for B&D’s Cornhole Boards and Bags.

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

about 7 years ago

Cornhole bags games at my #July4th party you are either Federation or Colonial! #StarTrek #BSG #LLAP #SSWA

Deane Geiken @DLGeiken

over 5 years ago

@WilliamShatner I have a bottle of the James T. Kirk exclusive 12 year old whiskey. Is the signature actually your handwriting or was it done by someone else? Haven’t opened it. Waiting for a special occasion but not sure what that might be! Thanks 4 being an awesome person!