I have a lived in experience of what you're talking about.
I've discovered that women are allergic to quietness. They can't understand why you're quiet. It is too strange to them. "Why should a person be quiet?"
I believe that they are chaotic by design which is why their inner man feels rattled by your quietness.
Trust me, they think you are thinking of another woman at that moment. She has to create that false scenario in her head in order for her chaos to function.
They thrive in chaos/drama.
@jon_d_doe This post just reminded me again that 15 years before 1914, the Niger area(Nigeria) was sold to one man's company for over Β£800k.
Nigeria's story is very funny.
Having a husband is great because you always have someone to talk to. The problem is, halfway through your story, you start noticing the signs.
The occasional "hmm." The random nodding. The delayed "wow" that has absolutely nothing to do with what you just said.
One day I spent almost twenty minutes telling my husband about something that happened at work. I was fully invested. I gave background information, side characters, plot twists, and even explained why I was upset.
When I finally finished, he blinked a couple of times, looked up at me, and said, "Sorry, I think I drifted off for a second. What happened after that?"
That was when I realized this man had been physically present but spiritually unavailable.
The funny part is that I wasn't even angry. I just started laughing because now I understand why all my secrets are safe with him.
It's not loyalty. It's because he never received the information in the first place.
Pastor: Ladies, dress like your miracle next Sunday.
Next Sunday, all the single ladies arrive in wedding dresses.
Pastor: Single brothers, next Sunday, dress like your miracle.
Next Sunday, they arrive in their envisioned career outfits.
In my entire life, I have never seen a single man do the opposite.
Jesus said, where the treasure of a person is, there their heart will be also.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.