@thelastrefrane @danrunsfast I think what you are talking about is just standard human nature, not at all specific to a “church”. Everyone wants to push their own agenda and make themselves look better/smarter/wiser whatever it is.
Why would Kim Jong-un insult me by calling me "old," when I would NEVER call him "short and fat?" Oh well, I try so hard to be his friend - and maybe someday that will happen!