they're gonna hate me for this but i'll tell you. all you have to do to become the person you want to be is mimic your idea of that person. all the world's a stage baby, start acting.
the best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you. go outside, try new cafes, museums, events, take a new route home, speak to people, ask questions, side quest. the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.