Da Gbana Gal—Demarginist

Demarginist

[Da Gbana Gal—Demarginist @DaGbanaGal]

It is unrealistic to expect solidarity from ALL or even the majority of feminists.

The sooner we understand and accept this, the earlier and easier we’ll get to real problem-solving.

A sustainable community is for people with aligned goals.

[Madame La Directrice @jenny_gxo]

It is very dangerous to think every boy child will turn into an abuser, I don’t think you realise how that is adultification and contributes to pushing them further the manosphere pipeline, if we want a better world, then that has to start from how we approach the boy child

[Madame La Directrice @jenny_gxo]

3 year old: “mama you stink” (mother actually stinks)
Twitter: careful with that or he’ll turn into his abusive father….

Everyone has lost it

[.✦ ݁˖ @wyoyana]

close enough??

[Da Gbana Gal—Demarginist @DaGbanaGal]

@__E__LU__LA__ Okay. Be easy on yourself.

[T. @tobiojenike]

You, a full fledged adult can't regulate or control your emotions, yet you expect kids, literal babies to know how to regulate theirs and behave correctly? Okay.

[Madame La Directrice @jenny_gxo]

You’re talking about a 3 year old, both boys and girls at that age are “mean” and very straightforward because empathy and tactful mess is something we teach them as they grow. You’re all being very weird toward a toddler that has only done this for so long and barley speaks

[Madame La Directrice @jenny_gxo]

I find it interesting how we talking about violent parenting, but I see the way you all violently talk about kids here, you don’t want to see them in public spaces, in planes, telling celebs their kids will turn out just like their violent fathers. Tbh, you not that different.

[.H 🤎 @Hussy_ameen]

honestly, i feel like people underestimate how much courage it takes for you to speak about your abuse from your parents lol.

being in therapy, and still practically holding back on some of my core experiences, because i was carrying the shame that wasn’t even mine to carry.

[Fareedah @mixandrix102]

Dedicating my account to rt'ing abusive parent slander and abused children's trauma today
I remember during an holiday, wanting to write down what they did to me but I couldn't bc it was too painful
And my sister has had it worse bc while I had full boarding and uni far from

[Chief £ne @_Ojonya]

Beat children for being dyslexic,
Beat them for bedwetting,
Beat them for not having emotional intelligence, beat them for talking too loud, beat them for not talking at all, beat them saying they don’t like something, beat them for liking something.

You came into this world to be an abuser to the one group of humans who deserve the most patience and know NOTHING about social cues yet.

[shaka ⚡️ @shxkxbabu]

people go tell you “so sorry ❤️” when you jam talk tomorrow them go say “your mother was right”

i say everybody go learn by force

[DeolaA @DeolaA6]

When I was in primary school, my teacher asked to see my mom and she told her that she thinks I might have ADHD and I should get it checked out.

My mother replied ‘oh no, she’s just stupid.’

I will never forget how that made me feel. And the look on Miss Shirley’s face 😂

[Goddess Graveyard Punany✨ @xm_muva]

I'm coming back to this to celebrate @cynugwudike for being so brave in her vulnerability to use her own experience to create such important and necessary discourse. I hope folks are reflecting, confronting and doing the work break the generational trauma that is physical violence.

[robodu @rxbodu]

having nothing to contribute to the current parental trauma conversation because you dissociated through most of it and can't remember that period of your life anymore.

[Saint Mari @teslimalabi_]

The beatings worked like mad:

- we cannot challenge authority
- we keep electing leaders that rob us and rub it in our faces
- we maintain a culture of silence that enables the cycle of abuse
- we dissociate and can only process difficult emotions through the lens of religion

[Goddess Graveyard Punany✨ @xm_muva]

I'm trying to articulate this well; many of you have reacted to her story unwarrantedly, she internalizes her child's honesty as mean, and that's a whole other discussion on its own - children haven't learned the social skill of LYING to be nice, they don't get that there is a social cue where you omit how you feel, or what you see not to hurt someone's feelings - some of you throwing her abusive ex in her face & acting like this means her son is learning to be violent towards woman have to get offline and actually spend time with PEOPLE. Please.

[prin 𖤍 @velcrolezbo]

more parents need to educate themselves on how beating their children can evoke a similar response in that child’s brain to other threatening experiences, like sexual assault.

[Ivan @ananivam]

in 2015, my mum grabbed me and smashed my head into the wall because-- I can't even remember why tbh.
I just know I was making eba.
I can't forgive her because I'm always choking with anger every time I remember it.
we're chill, but I can't help it.

[Zee @zeesdabeesknees]

My mother would beat me till the point where the welts in my skin would bleed and for the sick fact i always healed with no scars she'd beat me again and again and when it gets to the point where i had lost even the energy to cry she'd tell me its my fault if i was a better child

[alsogbemi🧚‍♀️ @iamnaomi19]

Often when I tell people I’m the only girl and they’re like you and your mom must be so close, it’s gets me so angry because what I would give to have a different life, a different mother