Being fertile.
A lot of us take it for granted that you can just have sex and if you're not careful, you would soon be expecting a baby.
Infertility is crazy.
There's this deep sadness I see in infertile couples. You look at their eyes and that light is just not there.
That sex that is normally enjoyable becomes a chore.
We often prescribe sex like medication for them and after a while, it becomes a chore.
If you can get pregnant or impregnate someone unassisted, you don't know what God has done for you.
I know it sounds cliché but health really is wealth. Because as long as you’re well, you’re in a position to build, to chase anything and to become whatever you want. Everything else can wait but your health can’t.
There is a lot of luck invovled with finding a spouse, particularly one worthy of having children with, so I side-eye pretty much all comments looking down on those who haven't settled down. It's arrogant and shows a lack of self-awareness.
Mercy is when you can't even explain how you're surviving, but you are. You don't have it all figured out, but each day, God sends help right when you need it. Hallelujah.
Workplaces are so weird for thinking that just because you're not married and/or have no kids, you always have "free" time for more work as other people leave.
A few things:
- Speaking English
- Being polite (saying excuse me, please, thank you)
- Smiling
- Using cash
- Looking like you are not about to fight
- Having no visible tattoo(s)
- Putting on shorts or no jacket
Etc
Hello Stranger,
I don’t know you & you don’t know me but I’d like to tell you that I see you. You’re probably carrying a heavy weight right now and going through the most; life has been hard on you lately.
But don’t despair and don’t give up.
Time comes in this life & things become heavy. And because you’re used to being the strong person, no one sees your pain, no one sees that you’re quietly falling apart on the inside and no one sees that you’re considering giving up.
I’m just here to tell you that you do not have to carry the burden all by yourself.
It is absolutely okay to be tired. It’s okay to feel confused and lost. It’s okay to be discouraged and it’s very okay to be overwhelmed. Life gets tricky & struggling does not make you weak or wimpy - it simply makes you human.
Your goodness & worth are not measured by how many good days you have or how productive you are. It’s not about how well you mask that pain or how much money is in your bank account.
You’re worthy & you matter simply because you exist - that’s it. Even on the days when you feel broken, confused, lost, unwanted, or emotionally exhausted, you’re still deserving of kindness, peace & love.
And if other people can’t give you that kindness, peace & love, at least give it to yourself.
Dear Stranger, please be gentle with yourself. Rest as much as you need to. Cry as much as you need to. Start over as many times as you need to. Healing is not a straight line and no one tows the same path.
And even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, there is still plenty of good ahead of you. There are many conversations that will make you smile again, opportunities that will restore your hope, and people who will appreciate the burden you carry.
You’ve survived every difficult day up to this point - pat yourself on the back. That strength is still inside you, even if you can’t feel it today.
Dear stranger, I don’t know you but I’m rooting for you. ❤️
Just travel as partners,no need for cohabitation, travel to another country for a staycation, you'll see things and decide whether that's the monkey you want to endure.