Out of 10 men, 1 makes a sexual joke at a woman, 2 laugh, 3 fake a chuckle to fit in and 4 stay silent. None of them speak up. Later, 9 of them still believe they're the"good guys." But from the woman's perspective, the laughter, the silence, the looking away, it all creates the same environment. So when women say"most men are the same," this is what they mean: not that every man harasses women, but that most men help protect the system that does.