I once sat with a girl who told me she had been raped.
She had gone to spend the night at her boyfriend’s house, & he spiked her drink.
She woke up to signs of sexual assault — confused, scared, & hurt.
I told her we could go together to make a police report.
I sat beside her as the officer said things like:
‘You shouldn’t have gone over there.’
‘You shouldn’t have stayed the night.’
‘You shouldn’t have accepted a drink.’
‘You shouldn’t have been drinking alcohol at all.’
Every word he said was about what she did wrong — not about what was done to her.
I corrected him. I told him that none of the choices she made were her fault.
None of this was her fault.
He was the one who drugged and assaulted her. It’s not ok to say it’s her fault. He was shocked and mumbled well “no”
Instead of taking her report with professionalism, without judgment, without bias — he made her feel blamed.
She left without filing charges.
This is how rape culture persists