Trauma did NOT make you stronger.
It traumatized you, broke your heart, dysregulated your nervous system, gave you PTSD, sleepless nights, trust issues, connection difficulty, almost killed you, and stole your will to live.
YOU make yourself stronger by stepping up to heal.
When we grieve losses, we're not just grieving the loss-- we're grieving parts of ourselves. The "us" we were w/ them.
The version of "us" we'll never quite be again, for better or worse, now that they're gone.
I dunno. I think most grief is more "complicated" than we assume.
John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
Psalms 51:10-12
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within https://t.co/WnNiHADFUA not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me.Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
In trauma recovery, we start to remember who we really are. We see little glimpses of our real self. Not the "self" we had to construct to survive, not the "self" who's basically a walking fawn response.
Bit by bit. Day by day. We remember, we recover, we recreate...us.
Never underestimate the Lord's ability to flip your script JUST LIKE THAT!
God can open a door, change a heart, restore something, or transfer a blessing, IMMEDIATELY!
Dysfunctional families can’t survive without denial and a scapegoat. So, when one person begins to speak up about the dysfunction, those who survive by and benefit from the dysfunction, will eagerly blame that person to keep their survival and security in tact.
Why do narcissists hate you? They hate themselves. They hate that you can love, have true connections & be happy. They will never be able to feel those things. They tried mirroring you & taking them from you but it didn’t work. They don’t poses them & they hate you for it.
Loneliness is among the strongest predictors of suicidal ideation, suicide attempts and other suicidal behavior. It is so important to talk to people and be there for them.
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#suicideprevention#suicide#btsadv#enddv
You need to know that pushing back against trauma or cult programming is difficult because it's DESIGNED to be difficult.
Abusers WANT us to struggle w/ it, to get overwhelmed & bored & hopeless-- to quit trying to reprogram ourselves, & just go back to being quiet & compliant.