Debra Fileta

Faith-Forward Professional Counselor, Podcaster, Speaker. Writing about relationships & mental health.

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The world changes one person at a time.

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Thoughts lead to feelings, and feelings lead to behaviors.

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Emotional health means your ability to acknowledge, express, and respond to your emotions in healthy ways.

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Many people who go through extreme trauma or grief, have a tendency to put their emotions on "mute". It takes effort and intentionality (and counseling) to turn the volume back up to a healthy place.

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Break ups are hard. But how you react to a break up can either break you or strengthen you, and it's up to you what you will choose to do with it.

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Envy is the enemy of love because it causes us to focus on what God is NOT doing in our lives, rather than seeing what He IS doing.

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You can't guarantee tomorrow, because you only have today for sure. So learn to live each day to the best of your ability, find joy in each moment, and live abundantly here and now.

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Don't spend too much time believing that life will start once you...get married, start a family, have kids..because life is happening now.

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God is greater than your timeline.

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It's so much easier to blame the relationship. But so much less effective. You are 50% of the equation of a healthy relationship...So start looking at what you bring to the table.

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Marriage can be a resource of motivation and encouragement, but it can never make you whole.

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"For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power..."
—2 Timothy 1:7

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If we really want healthy relationships, we've got to stop looking at the relationship and start looking at how healthy we are standing alone.

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Just because you feel something, doesn't mean it's the truth.

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In her upcoming book, Relationship Skills: A Christian Guide to Healthy Relationships, Better Communication, Conflict Resolution, Intimacy, and Lasting Love, licensed professional counselor @DebraFileta uses the predictable patterns every relationship moves through­―what she calls the four seasons―as the roadmap for building a healthier, stronger connection.

It releases on September 15, 2026, and it is available for preorder!!

paperback: $17.48

purchase link: https://t.co/pTUMm8iQFH

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Someone out there needs to hear this today: YOU ARE ENOUGH.

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In her book, Any Day Emotions: God Cares About Your Sunny Day, Rainy Day, and Every Day In Between, @DebraFileta offers biblical and practical suggestions on what children can do about how they are feeling.

Hardcover: $13.04
"It's been said that if all you have is a hammer, everything in life looks like a nail. In Any Day Emotions, Debra Fileta will upgrade your emotional toolboxes with various tools that life demands. This is one of those kids' books that will be equally helpful to the adults who read it and give your family more robust language to process feelings practically."
-- @levilusko, author of Don't Worry, Warrior

purchase link: https://t.co/WxM8g1waMM

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Trauma teaches you to close your heart and armor up.

Healing teaches you to open your heart and boundary up.

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Sometime this reminder is needed.