Everyone remembers the men who built the empire. Few remember the woman who held the family together while they fought for it. Polly Gray carried more than her own burdens. She carried everyone else's too.
Reality check: Real strength isn't always loud. Sometimes it's the quiet decision to keep showing up for the people who depend on you.
🎬 Peaky Blinders 🔥 Credit to: BBC
Who's the person that quietly holds your family together?
Clare Shannon, a 17-year-old girl, discovers a magic box with the ability to grant seven wishes. However, the people close to her start to die in very gruesome ways each time she uses it.
I got divorced last year, and my ex-husband has already remarried.
Now he is telling me to remove his surname from my name. He said he does not want anything that still connects me and him together. According to him, it makes people think he still has ties to me, and he does not want any confusion. He also said his new wife is not comfortable with it and feels insecure about it.
The issue is that I have been using his surname for many years. We were married for 15 years, and during that time, that name became part of my daily life and identity. I did not just use it casually, it became the name I am known with everywhere.
That name is on almost everything connected to me. It is on my first degree, my master’s degree, my bank accounts, my ID cards, my BVN, and even our children’s school records. Back when BVN registration started, he strongly insisted that I change everything to his surname, and I followed through with it.
Now the problem is that changing it will not be simple at all. It will mean going through many offices, paperwork, updates, and verification processes. It will cost money, take a lot of time, and also bring stress I was not expecting at this stage of my life.
At the same time, I am emotionally confused. Part of me feels I should just go ahead and remove the name completely so I can fully move on and close that chapter of my life. But another part of me feels that after 15 years of marriage, that name is not just his anymore. It has become part of my personal history, my identity, and everything I built during those years.
Now I am stuck and honestly do not know what to do next. 😩😭 I really need honest advice, What should I do please?
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There is this importer at Trade Fair, he will intentionally go and buy food without any meat, then bring the food outside where everybody will be seeing him that he is eating food without meat or fish, so people will pity him and not ask him for money.
and I finally finished the tiny garden I made in an ugly little space between my house and the neighbor’s cinder block wall. My mom was a former florist and a master gardener so I really hope she likes it.
(I hope you Thriends do too!)
First pic is before. The middle ones are what I did. Last one is my mom in her garden. ❤️
At the beginning of May, I shared that I’d been asking my deceased mom to send me a free wooden planter box as a birthday present. When a big wooden planter box magically appeared in my Ask Borrow Give group, the giver selected me, and I went to pick it up.
The woman who was giving it away was wearing a Fordham sweatshirt. My mom went to Fordham and that was my sign that my mom did indeed send me that planter box for my birthday.
A few thousand of you loved the story and asked for pics …
Since everybody is asking what happened next...
The moment my dad told him, 'Pastor, I don’t have any son o, only daughters,' the man's brain just jammed. Completely shattered.
But instead of him to just own up that he guessed wrong, pastor quickly changed the script! He cleared his throat, raised his voice, and started shouting:
'Yes! That is exactly what I mean! The male child that is YET to come! A future grandson, or the son-in-law that will marry into this house!'
Omo, he spent the next 10 minutes sweating and praying against 'the spirit of confusion' when he was the one that brought the confusion to our living room.
But honestly, the house is still awkward. My mom and dad have been whispering since he left.
Part of me knows he is just a freestyle scammer, but another part is wondering if there is actually a hidden family secret we don't know about...