I keep saying it that if there was a way all 200 million+ Nigerians can travel abroad and see how countries function over there, the infrastructure and everything they have… Nigeria will change within maximum of 1 year, our politicians won’t survive the wrath of Nigerians.
At age 18 to 29, you have dated my father’s mate, my brother’s mate, politicians, my uncles, my senior men dem. I no vex cus na your life. You don explore well well.
During this period, i dey hustle to get my life together, i dey try make this money make me sef be somebody.
Now wey i don reach 32 and i don get ground small, you dey advise me make i go for my age mate. You no wan make i explore too? 😒
1. Avoid trouble and physical fights in every possible way. They offer absolutely no benefit.
2. People will show you who they are; believe them early. Don’t spend years trying to convince someone to become the person you wish they were.
3. If you must love and get into a relationship, do so with your eyes wide open.
4. Always have a Plan B. Also have an exit plan. In relationships, jobs, businesses, and friendships, know what you will do if things go wrong.
5. Never let desperation make your decisions. Learn to seek advice from people. A person who asks questions while travelling will never miss their route.
6. Learn to practise delayed gratification. When you are at the stage of building your life, learn to deny yourself some immediate comfort and enjoyment for your future and greater benefits.
7. Health is wealth. Never neglect it. Learn to take proper care of yourself.
8. Stop comparing yourself to others. Learn that your only true competition is who you were yesterday. If you don’t learn to stop comparing, you will never live a truly happy life.
9. Take calculated risks. Playing it completely safe can keep you comfortable but stagnant. Learn to recognize opportunities and take reasonable risks when the potential reward justifies them.
10. Learn how to negotiate. I have written about it here several times. Negotiation is a survival skill.
11. Choose your friends carefully. The people around you can influence your ambitions, habits, standards, and decisions more than you realize.
12. Your reputation is an asset. It takes years to build and minutes to destroy.
13. Please, be disciplined. You can’t achieve much in life without discipline.
14. Your appearance matters a lot. Invest in it. Dress well and smell good. No matter what you are going through, don’t look like it.
15. Failure is bound to happen. If you must succeed in life, you must learn how to handle failure. There is nothing shameful about failing, but make sure you don’t make the same mistake twice.
16. In anything you do, don’t allow your money to finish. The world is incredibly unkind to poor men, so strive to make money and maintain some financial security.
17. Learn how to talk, when to keep quiet, and when to react or not. Learn to control your emotions; it will help you immensely in life.
18. Avoid any situation where only God will be your witness.
19. Please, read books. Read every single day of your life.
20. Ensure you listen to J. Cole. His music will shape your life more than you can imagine.
A boy and a girl are dating. The boy has a great job, a comfortable apartment and a car. All the girl has is a soft body and a pretty face, but it is the boy who is lucky? Okay.
The boy makes 500k+ a month. The girl is still being fed by her parents, but it is the boy who is lucky? Okay.
From that 500k, the boy is paying her bills, taking her on dates, even covering bills for people he's never met in her family. But it's the boy who is lucky? Okay.
And then when he eventually breaks up with the girl & walks away, he's the one who "fumbled" and "lost a good one?" She's the one who "Dodged a bullet?"
Delusion is a beautiful thing.
The moment you're traveling and immediately enter kogi state you'll see poverty staring at you. Kogi state is the most backward state after ekiti state.
Only a stupid person will go to a polling unit, and vote for Tinubu, who's wife wants you to fry akara, roast corn, and fry kulikuli.
Only stupid people.
I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, "Never play fair in a game where others cheat." It doesn't mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they'll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.