I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
“During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night, and it was the dance that kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for.” – Dan Savage