You kno what's super attractive to me? When a man CALMLY talks to you in times of disagreement. EVEN inspite of their frustration in the moment. Not being a hot dead and talking crazy, no character assassination.... just calmly & rationally responding with patience & diligence.
Relationships can survive mistakes, but they can't survive patterns. Apologies lose meaning when actions never change. Everyone makes mistakes. Real love understands that people are human, imperfect, and sometimes get things wrong. But there's a difference between a mistake and a habit. A mistake is something you regret and work to correct. A pattern is something you keep doing while expecting forgiveness every time.
Men have raped lizards, cows, dogs, men, dead bodies, kids in diapers, women in burkha, transgenders and what not, and yet people debate clothes matters .
It's not her clothing, it's his mindset.
I’m fascinated by how many people don’t appreciate the sky. It’s literally a pleasure to watch the clouds, the ever changing colours of the horizon, the stars, the sun, and the moon.
One of the hardest truths is this:
You and your partner will hurt each other even when you love each other deeply.
People like to believe real love means no pain.
But that’s a fantasy.
Real love includes moments that sting. Not because your partner is bad or toxic, but because they’re human… and humans mess up.
They’ll say the wrong thing, they’ll disappoint you,they’ll fall short in ways they never meant to and you’ll hurt them too.
You’ll miss their needs. You’ll fail without realizing it.
The question isn’t “Will this happen?” - because it will.
The real question is:What do you do after the hurt?
-Can you talk about it?
-Can you stay when it’s uncomfortable?
-Can you choose the relationship over your ego?
-Can you forgive… and be forgiven?
-Can you grow instead of walking away?
There are no perfect partners.
But there are partners worth keeping the ones who stay and heal with you.
Girl to Girl
Any money you spend on eating well, dressing well, smelling good, feeling confident, seeing new paces, trying new things or choosing yourself is never a waste.
Marry a guy who can speak kindly to you, even when he’s upset with you. The best partner is someone who, even in anger, never tries to insult or hurt you. He respects you enough not to let a simple argument become a reason to lose you. ❤️
crazy how peaceful life becomes when you decide you no longer have the energy to teach people how to appreciate you, respect you, respect your boundaries, treat you right, listen, communicate, resolve conflicts, honor agreements, be accountable, and have difficult conversations.