We live in a highly patriarchal society. I hv done around 200 kidney transplants. My findings in my series:
1. Around 80-90 % of Kidney Transplant Recipients are men. When a woman develops ESRD( Kidney Failure), it is very hard to find a Kidney donor, among the relatives.
2. In my entire career, not even a single husband came forward to donate his Kidney to his sick wife, & save her life.
3. When a woman is a Kidney recipient, the person who donates is usually a sister or daughter, or mother.
4. Most women r ready to offer their kidneys to their ailing husbands to save his life. The converse never happens.
5. There was once an extreme case, when a 19 yr old legal wife, donated her Kidney to her 45 yr old husband. After the Tx, I was casually talking to her. Her story was bizarre. This was her elder sister's husband. Just for Tx, the entire family had planned it carefully. The husband divorced his wife, & the 19 yr old girl was beaten fr days to marry the 45 yr old man, since her Kidney was a perfect match.
So, a simple survey of Kidney Tx recipients & donors exposes how deeply patriarchal, misogynistic, our rotten society is.
Scratch the veneer of democracy, modernity in India, & u find that underneath, we are still a feudal, casteist, misogynistic, patriarchal community.