Few cousins and their family never wish you luck before exams, never congratulate you after results, never call on birthdays.
But for 7–8 years, every backache, knee pain, fever, prescription doubt, or “just one small medical question” comes to you.
This year finally i stop responding to these one sided relationship calls, but i was told, “Be cordial. Sometimes you do it for optics in society”
Maybe.
But where does cordiality end & one-sided access begin?
I feel we are often expected to be endlessly available to extended family members, even when the relationship has otherwise had no warmth, reciprocity or basic acknowledgement. Specially after I have become a Psychiatrist, should I just have endless empathy?
I don’t mind helping in such trivial matters. It takes me nothing to guide for backache or osteoarthritis or read them their general blood investigations. I mind being treated like a free emergency counter by people who otherwise don’t even pretend to care..
What’s the healthier boundary here? What’s your take?
The Med Student Guilt
Delhi NCR usually has horrible weather.
Today is one of the rare days when the weather is actually nice and pleasant. I was standing in my balcony and enjoying the pleasantness.
And was suddenly reminded of the college and preparation days, when such moments couldn't be enjoyed because of the guilt of 'wasting time' that every medical student carries for life.
Even today as I write this message, thousands of students must be looking outside from the windows but they won't step outside as they can't "waste time".
We get these degrees of MBBS/MS/MD/DM/MCh but the sacrifices that we make en route are staggering.
This profession gives us a lot but takes a lot as well in return.
US used a relatively unknown “TikToker journo“ in Oslo to heckle PM Modi.
India used professional journo Siddhant to ask off script questions making sure Rubio called Trump Stupid.
“ Ecosystem ko jawaab usi ki bhasha me milega”
- Narendra Modi
2-July-‘24, Loksabha
Interesting how there’s no appreciation for Sidhant Sibal’s journalism in directly calling out the Secretary of State of the world’s most powerful country, from the same people who collectively adopted Helle Lyng as their new mother over a performative “journalistic” stunt.
Zoning out when you're not interested and super locked in when you're into something. Regretting what you've said and making 12 other scenarios of what you could've said instead of getting over it.