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[Yochanan @DoctorOfEcons]

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[Unilag Nesa @UnilagNesa_]

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[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

My friend sends his children’s nanny's kids to his children's school and he pays the fees. The fee is not cheap. The kids all play together.

They won't understand what is happening until they are big.

In his simple logic, the person looking after your kids deserve to have her kids looked after. Your children's lives are in her hands and she would raise them as her own.

#Mentality

[femiiiiii. @femiiiszn]

pretending you didn't see something so the other person doesn't feel uncomfortable is a level of empathy not everyone will understand.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Anytime I see her watching Tv and using her phone, she gets a "one screen at a time" rebuke from me.

Initially, she'd respond with "leave me jor" but I was consistent.

So these days, like a stubborn ill tempered child, she'll act like she didn't hear me for a couple of seconds, before dropping the phone.

Was watching football yesternight and scrolling X, when I heard a stern "one screen at a time!" rebuke from behind.

It was her, doing her best impression of me.

My instinct in such situations is typically to casually dismiss her:

"Go away, woman"

After all, I'm Baba yehgha; no one tells me what to do, least of all a mere woman

But I caught myself, and realised if I did that, I'd lose the moral authority to enforce that same rule with her.
Because for a lesson or principle to be truly persuasive, it has to first apply to its author before it can effectively apply to its audience.

So I dropped the phone.

Then came a smug, satisfactory look on her face.

Moral of the story is that when you're trying to get someone to do or stop doing something, the day they start calling you out for the same misbehaviour is the day you know the lesson is being accepted.

And perhaps most importantly, when you willingly hold yourself to the same standard you've set, you legitimise it in a way no argument or justification ever could.

One of the strongest indicators that you've successfully taught a principle to someone isn't that they obey you, but that they start applying it to you too

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Women who like you enough, spam you with their pictures.

If she does not voluntarily send them to you, she does not like you (enough yet) and that's okay.

Asking for it, will turn her off.

Unless she's clearly for sale and therefore you need to see marketing images of the product before you pay, asking for pictures is counterproductive.

[Ora🌹🌹 @Chiora__]

All of you that decided to start frying akara for content are also very foolish.

[king Berry karter, MBA @kingberrykarter]

A colleague and I were talking and he talked about how his wife sometimes “misbehaves” he said I’m “lucky” my wife is not a social media freak.

I’m lucky she’s not influenced by friends…I’m lucky she really loves me, and I’m lucky she has the fear of God…

Then I asked him bro, do you really think it’s all a coincidence? You really think it’s luck!?

I knew what I wanted from day one and I searched for it! They say people change, but I am also “people” If she can change, me too can change, no one has the monopoly of madness…

You think there are no times she wants to act out of order? But She’s aware of the fact that I don’t tolerate nonsense…

She embraced her feminine side because I sticked to my masculine side, while loving her genuinely treating her like a baby. She wouldn’t want to throw that away.

My guy was speechless. If I wasn’t married, he probably would have told me to marry first.

One big rule of marriage: As a man don’t start what you can’t finish…

[Ken_ @cknze1]

Watching this again just reminded me of my own experience and of something women do that, if you’re inexperienced in the game, will lead you directly into her trap.

Once you start leveling up as a man and women judge that you’re getting to the stage of an “eligible bachelor,”

They’ll subtly drop some version of “when are we getting married?”
Or
“I want you to marry me (insert laughing emojis)”

Which can be incredibly self-validating or ego-soothing for you as a guy if youre not grounded,

tempting you to think that there’s genuine desire in there, when in reality, they’re in peak game mode strategizing how to take themselves out of the singles market (Age is probably catching up with them).

And they are probably sending that same message to 2 or 3 guys simultaneously besides you.

The game is the game.

Learn or perish.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

If you're on a date, drop the bloody phone and focus on the person in front of you*

Modern human beings spend all day on their phones connecting with people who aren't physically present.

Then, when they're finally in the same room with those people, they ignore them and return to their phones to connect with another set of people who aren't physically present.

Mental illness

[Yehgha @yaygha]

You can't "start this nonchalant thing."

Nonchalance isn't something you decide to start. It's a personality trait.

It's like asking, "If person wan start this funny thing, wetin e go need?"

The question itself is a category error. Just like humour, curiosity, introversion and agreeableness, nonchalance is a trait you have.
It's not something you switch on at will or decide to begin.

If it didn't dey, it didn't dey

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Some ladies are demanding hugs and kisses from their men, and melting into their arms during painful periods. Others are offering mood swing and disrespect to their men and expecting them to understand.

Guess which one they tried convincing you is women's nature? 😊

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Thank you for reading.

I'm not sure I have any insightful actionable tips I can give as I'm also still learning and therefore, cannot be a literary mentor.

But I think if you have writers whose work or content you love and they are sufficiently inspiring, you can start by doing what they do: write.

However, you have to be consistent. Write down whatever valuable thought comes to mind, no matter how cringe-inducing it is or how fuzzy it may appear and keep refining it until it perfectly reflects the image you have in your head.

Words are the oxygen which breathes life into the clay of ideas - so you must write—everyday, if possible and they do not even have to make sense in the beginning.

One of the most significant benefits of writing—at least in my case, is the clarity of mind it gives because words crystallise ideas.

And as you initiate that cycle of ideating and drafting, your thoughts, which are your building blocks, emerge with a higher frequency and are better formed because your brain cognises your final output, learns the processes you employed to achieve them and overtime, gives you better material to work with ab initio, ultimately commencing a chain reaction and facilitating the literary process.

Whilst excellence at anything is considerably determined by genetic factors like aptitude and high intelligence, I still think significant progress can be achieved by diligently doing the basics: Reading, thinking, and writing.

Not sure how much of this helps, but there you go.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

1. Read text more than you watch videos

2. Check the meaning of EVERY new word--don't assume its meaning from the context you saw it being used

3. Document your thoughts and refine them until they mirror the picture you have in your head

[Yehgha @yaygha]

I've answered this question before and will find the tweet and post in the comments.

But just to add; whoever you are, know that I've been in this position before. Sometime between 2018 and 2019, I remember reading from Odanz, Oloye and Dickson and thinking to myself whether I'd ever be able to express myself as clearly and precisely as they did.

Then I stumbled on IM's and later Destiny's accounts, was blown away and stopped asking myself that question and simply started writing.

7 years later, here we are. I hope this gives you some belief that you too can become far better than you currently imagine.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

"Don't date under 23. They have not experienced life"

Time to demystify this nonsense. Ride with me.

Everyone becomes an adult at 18. Prior to that, you were the responsibility of your parents and under their guardian and tutelage. How do you leave your parents tutelage and immediately become a whore? It speaks to how you were raised and shames your parents. In the past, people bragged about how a child was raised and by 18 everyone knows without a shadow of doubt she would make a good wife because he values were right and her femininity was on point. Now by 18, we are expecting women to have sugar daddy and whore around till they are ready to settle down.

If your reason for not marrying young women was because you wanted them to get a degree, work experience and get some financial independence, that makes a lot of sense to me. But all the reasons I have seen on this app has been about whoredom. Talmbout, they have not experienced their hoe phase. Why are you waiting for a whore to retire before you marry? Who cursed you?

The talk of "they have not experienced life" is bullshit. Everybody experiences life. Whoredom is not life experience. A woman becomes fit for marriage at 18. You as a man can then mould her into the man you want in the best interest of your home while you lead her, provide for her and protect her with your life and resources. The more men she sleeps with, she loses a part of her femininity and carries a part of them because men shape women.

She has not experienced "hoe phase."

There is no such thing as hoe phase. She is either a hoe or not. How do you trust someone who has whored for 10 years above someone who just entered adulthood from her parents' guardian and is undefiled? Claiming she would become a whore and she should let that phase pass, is you impugning the character of a woman who just came into adulthood while pushing her into whoredom and it shows the society we live in.

I dated my first babe when she was 19 and I was 21. Her values were right, principles were tight, behaviour was excellent. I met my next babe when she was 21, had a long talking stage, became friends and dated. She crossed from that passed 25 without being a whore. Values are tight. Behaviour on point. Femininity over the roof.

You were raised. So how do you leave home to become a whore immediately? That should be the real question here. That is the question I need you men to be asking instead of expecting every woman to be a whore. It is even an insult to women who have conducted themselves appropriately through their teen and 20s to be grouped together with whores. Someone who has whored from 19 to 30 is not retired. A whore will always be a whore. The past doesn't stay in the past. If you have financial issues, what do you think would cross her mind? If she has issues with you, what do you think she would do? The infidelity series I do annually, are you not seeing the number of whoring babes and wives in their 30s? Where do you see whores retire in real life? Leave theory and focus on life. Now let me ask you, are you not seeing 30+ flauting breasts and ass on Twitter, IG and Snapchat? Are you not bedding whoring 30+ women?

Where is the retirement?

Relationship can end for many reasons - genotype incompatibility, parents refusal to consent, distance, wanting different things from life, career and family, among others. People who had sex with their partners during the existence of their relationship are not whores. It is a relationship, sex is expected. You can differentiate them from people sleeping with all and sundry for money. You know 30+ dating or married women you can call and they will come rushing to suck.

"They have life experience" is not a flex. What experience did they have exactly and what did they learn from the experience? It is not by clocking 30. Fools clock 30 too, so do whores. Clocking 30 will not whitewash the whoredom nor does it make you wise.

"They are mature." Whoredom does not make you mature. You're just a whore. There are responsible 30+ women. If you must date a 30+, why not go for the responsible ones who have a history of carrying herself properly instead of dating a career whore? Some women have dedicated their 20s to education and career while having one or two failed relationships, why not go for those instead of the "mature women" who have more international caps than Ramos.

Lastly, saying "you can't control or lead an under 23" is actually something you should be ashamed to say. Are you not a man? Is it the experienced 30+ you call retired whore you want to control and lead? LOL

Date people with values. You can have values at 21 and you should. Age is irrelevant. Women with values at under 23 are in abundance. You are the one looking for whores. If you like, continue wifing whores in the name of maturity. Anyway, men like you are important for society. Somebody has to marry the whores. So here is me saying congratulations and thank you for your service 🤝🏾

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Interviewer: How much does your husband have to make to take care of a family of 5?

Her: We make over $200k combined.

Interviewer: So you split the bills on your household?

Her: Yeah. Everything is joint.

They have 3 kids and she is not using them as an excuse to be financially irresponsible to the home. Spotting family values is not rocket science

[Yehgha @yaygha]

We do not read and because we do not read, we do not appreciate books.

This is why the Nigerian girl would not like this, and the Nigerian guy would not gift this.

We are, by definition, an inferior people

[ᜰ @socetyhatesjay]

“as a man, you should…”
“my ex used to…”
“i live with my grandma”
“i’m just a girl”
“i live in ikorodu”
“i dated my ex for 4 years”

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

I have a firm belief that if a relationship is going to be transactional, it’s better to acknowledge that early rather than pretending it’s something else. Don’t waste time performing romance when the foundation is clearly different.

A lot of men try to simulate romance because:

(1) they struggle with loneliness and invisibility; they are are touch deprived and seek validation in women. This isn’t a bad thing. It’s quite natural. But not admitting it and leaving it unmanaged, would make you seek validation in any woman and through any means.

(2) the average man has been gaslighted to think his needs are inherently shameful and defective; they carry a kind of shame about simply wanting sex or companionship on transactional terms. They feel the need to disguise their intentions, even when everyone involved understands the reality.

But if you choose a transactional dynamic while secretly expecting genuine love and devotion, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. In the same way, if you pursue a romantic relationship with someone whose affection is primarily tied to what you provide, you’re also creating a situation where you can easily lose yourself.

If you keep it in mind to never commit—to someone with principles or personalities you are deeply incompatible with—it becomes easier. These things require honesty. But many men would forget themselves once their chests are rubbed. Weak bastards. (They’d call some of us childish, loveless and hateful for calling this out). If only they can remember that you can’t expect honesty from someone who benefits from falsehood.

A lot of the endless arguments and confusion come from people refusing to accept the true nature of the relationship they’ve chosen—and why they chose it.

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

I often don’t watch videos like this because, they usually don’t interest me. But today I watched until the end. While I don’t see any major issue with people passionately expressing their beliefs, I do find it interesting how people who strongly identify with feminism rarely acknowledge that there is also a male version of sacrifices and struggles.

Just as women have many complaints about what being a woman entails, men also have difficulties they are expected to endure. If a woman doesn’t want to recognize that, that’s their choice. But the important point is: as a woman, you shouldn’t expect genuine reconciliation or understanding from men when you dismiss their own experiences.

Also, I’m an advocate of men not obsessing over women’s choices. This video has hundreds of men arguing against these women, and honestly, I even feel slightly uncomfortable being grouped with that reaction. My question is: why are you so invested in convincing people who have already stated their preferences?

As a man today, you shouldn’t try to convince a woman that your idea of what is right, ideal, or principled is the correct one. Let them do what they want. Nobody is asking you to commit to them. Sometimes, the excessive need to argue with women about their preferences can reveal an insecurity: you don’t have enough options and need women in general to change to what you want, so more of them become available to you. It can also mean that you don’t have the ruthlessness to live on your own terms and are intimidated by the fact they’ll beat you to it—by their sexual leverage and sheer social savviness.

You should live on your own terms and only be available to those compatible with it. Many men avoid admitting this and instead opt for endless debates and think pieces.

Ultimately, if someone doesn’t want to submit, believe, or live according to your values, why spend so much energy trying to force agreement? Let them live, and you live according to your own standards. You should only go directly against them if they try to socialise the consequences of their own decisions.

[Alh Dowat 🇵🇹 @BigDowat]

Me to Portugal after Ronaldo’s retirement