Boymoding usually involves looking ostensibly androgynous, while trying to hide obvious effects of estrogen. There's no safety concern for trans men in wearing hoodies instead of skin tight tops, not wearing make up, etc.
esse papo de "homem é inerentemente ruim" tira as responsabilidades deles enquanto pessoas por pressupor que "esta é a natureza deles" mas vocês não estão prontos para esta conversa
Men will publicly act all gruff and stoic but then when you’re alone with them it’s like “Who’s a good boy??” “Omg meeeee :3” “Who wants snuggles and smooches???” “OMG MEEEEEE”
I get it, but I also feel like this is partially due to stigmatization of dominant/aggressive desire esp. within some queer spaces. Subbing is a less morally culpable position, rejection is scary, everyone wants to be the sheep and no one the wolf, nobody wants to work, etc.
@DesiresAreGrey i didnt HATE it as much as i do as an adult, i disliked and refused to read it because it seemed stupid to me. i was too busy reading warrior cats and manga
What I really hate about the whole "trans men don't owe you transitioning or masculinity" thing is that it frames masculine trans men who do transition as conforming to the gender binary and that not doing these things is the actual radical anti-patriarchy act.
@kaomojiself@cslivr Also talking about it afterwards and being reassured that they enjoyed it and feel good is helpful. Enthusiastic consent during the scene can also behelpful, but you don't always get that if its, like, cnc or the like. 2/2
@kaomojiself@cslivr It got better for me over time/with practice. I used to feel really bad and I would ask her if she was ok a lot but the more you get to know their likes and dislikes and limits the more comfortable you get. 1/2
@wellspringmask there is exactly one piece of musharna merchandise and it is the plushie that is currently sold out that i own and it sits on my nightstand.
@caenead being hispanic is actually kind of a w for short guys. i went to walmart the other day and i was feeling terrible about being short but then i saw a bunch of mexican guys and they were all around my height