my unhealthy defense mechanism is to shut down and stop talking if i feel like i’m being misunderstood or disrespected. i don’t like repeating myself and i don’t like the feeling like I’m not being heard
@lisathebeauty1@jiggyjayy2 That realization hits different… because it’s not even about blaming others, it’s realizing how much you abandoned yourself just to keep peace. Growth really is learning to choose yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable. 💔
“But you survived” I disassociate, like a lot. My heart drops when someone raises their voice. I shut down very easily. I'm far too observant. I always feel like a burden. I isolate often. But yeah, sure, I guess I survived.
I evaluate my behavior every night. I will literally be in the shower like "I didn't like how I responded to that today but tomorrow I will be better".