Dr Gavin Guye

Clinical Psychologist sharing reflections on baby loss, NICU journeys, trauma and parent wellbeing. Grounded in clinical expertise and lived experience.

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During pregnancy after loss, it's easy to become focused on how your partner is coping.

But the loss, fear and memories may belong to your story too.

Supporting them doesn't mean you have to stop having needs of your own.

You matter too.

#PregnancyAfterLoss

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During pregnancy after loss, partners can feel pressure to find the perfect words or take the fear away.

But support isn’t always an answer.

Sometimes it’s:

“I’m here.”

“What’s feeling hardest today?”

Presence can help someone feel less alone.

#PregnancyAfterLoss

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Pregnancy after loss affects more than one person.

Over the next few days I'll be sharing a short series about navigating pregnancy after loss together.

Every couple is different.
Every pregnancy after loss is different.

#PregnancyAfterLoss #BabyLoss

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A surprising part of my NICU journey was feeling like I'd become two different people.

The person inside the neonatal unit.

And the person I became once I walked back out.

Sometimes surviving the day means only feeling it once you leave.

#NICU #ParentMentalHealth

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One of the quietest psychological changes during NICU is that your world gradually becomes measured in numbers.

Oxygen.
Heart rate.
Weight.
Feeds.

Small numbers can come to mean enormous things.

#NICU #NeonatalCare #PrematureBaby

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"The strange thing about NICU...is that after a while...you learn most alarms aren't emergencies.
Your body never seems to learn that."

One of the invisible parts of NICU is how your nervous system stays ready for danger when the person you love most is lying in an incubator.

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Every night in NICU...

I walked away without my daughter.

I knew she was exactly where she needed to be.

It still felt wrong.

One of the invisible parts of NICU is that your body goes home...

while part of your heart stays beside the incubator.

#NICU

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To every neonatal nurse, doctor and healthcare professional...

Thank you for the countless small moments that quietly help parents grow in confidence alongside their babies.

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Before Maya came home...

I needed to know I could look after her.

Not because I didn't love her.
Not because I wasn't already her dad.

Little by little, Maya grew stronger.

And I gradually trusted myself to care for her too.

#NICU

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I couldn’t hold Maya.

She wrapped her tiny fingers around one of mine through the incubator instead.

I knew the neonatal team were protecting her.

I also know nobody prepares you to become a parent like that.

#NICU

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Deadline: 9am, 28 Aug

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Sometimes becoming a NICU parent begins before you've even had time to choose your baby's name.

For those first few days my daughter wasn't Maya.

She was simply "Baby Guye."

Many parents never forget moments like that.

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Becoming a NICU parent often doesn't begin with holding your baby.

Sometimes it begins with watching your baby being taken away.

I hope this series helps more families recognise the psychological experiences that are so often carried quietly.

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Today I'm beginning a new series:

The Invisible Psychology of NICU.

People often remember the medicine.

Parents remember what it felt like to live through it.

My hope is that more families recognise part of their own journey and feel a little less alone.

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If you've recognised yourself in this series...

I hope you hear this.

After baby loss, still knowing how old they'd be, leaving space for them, talking to them or finding ordinary moments difficult doesn't mean you're grieving the wrong way.

It means your child mattered.

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Some moments make you stop.

A nursery graduation.

A new classroom.

Starting 'big school'.

Leaving school.

For many bereaved parents, these aren't just milestones.

They can be reminders of the future they had imagined for their own child.

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"You would have loved this."

"I wish you could see this."

For many bereaved parents, those aren't conversations because they've forgotten.

They're conversations because love didn't end.

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One of the quieter parts of baby loss...

is wondering who your baby would have become.

Not because you can't let go.

But because loving your child didn't stop when they died.

Some questions can only ever be answered by watching your child grow.

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On 2 July 2026, Bliss will launch a new report, ‘Equity for Every Baby: Tackling inequalities in neonatal care linked to ethnicity and socioeconomic deprivation’. We continue to call for urgent action to address neonatal inequalities.

#EquityForEveryBaby #NeonatalCareUK

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"How many children do you have?"

For many bereaved parents, that isn't a simple question.

However you answer...

your baby is still part of your family.