My mom taught me only two lessons my entire childhood:
1. You MUST be a people pleaser to authority or you will literally die in a ditch.
2. Never get caught.
I hate when people start trying to read between the lines of my very direct, very clear statements. There is no hidden meaning. I said exactly what I meant.
Some people will swear that you are the problem. Yet, after you leave, their lives remain exactly the same: the same habits, the same issues, and the same chaos. That is when it hits you; it was never you. They just need someone to blame so they don't have to face themselves.
in your twenties you're going to experience a sudden shift in your parents behavior to be more kind and supportive towards you that for some unknown reason couldn't have come earlier despite their past behavior contributing to your deeply troubling mental issues they disregarded