At postpartum(lepas beranak) clinic that usually happened 4-6 weeks after delivery
“Saya jumpa/follow up dengan Dr, saya senang. Peace of mind. You are very thorough and terlampau detail. Memang setiap kali jumpa Dr saya tak risau apa. Happy sangat-sangat. Rasa nak mengandung lagi. Dah rindu nk mengandung lagi”
Ya of course, patient satisfied, kita pun sama satisfied.
But the thing is, the woman already 43 years old 😗, kita pula berpeluh dengar dia nak mengandung lagi 😅
Dear postpartum mothers;
Remember, it's important to communicate your needs clearly and kindly. Don't feel guilty for saying no to visitors, as this is a special time for you and your family to bond and adjust.
By setting boundaries, you can create a peaceful and supportive environment for your baby's first days and weeks of life.
I knew, breastfeeding can be that difficult. Sometimes it’s just impossible. But remember that there are so many other ways to be a great mother.
Breastfeeding definitely isn’t the only one.
1 in 4 pregnancies ended as miscarriage.
1 in 160 pregnancies ended as stillbirth.
There are lots of untold stories about miscarriage.
There are lots of babies to be remembered.
And, there a lots of devastated mothers to be acknowledged. They need time to rebuilt the shattered hearts.
Nature has designed the system to be able to defy the gravity.
Tiada kajian perubatan yg menyatakan dgn meninggikan kaki atau punggung lepas berhubungan
kelamin akan meninggikan peluang utk mengandung
But when you are on a mission to have a baby, you will probably want to do anything that could help.
If lifting your legs up after seggs makes you feel good, then, by all means, lift away!
Breastfeeding is often romanticised as the ideal way of mother and baby bonding and way to be ‘real’ mother - this kind of idealisation is often not very helpful.
As the reality can be very challenging, when your nipples are leaking or squirting milk three feet in front of you, your breasts are engorged, latching problem and your baby always seems hungry and unsatisfied.
The emotional rollercoaster of trying to establish breastfeeding while dealing with all those postpartum highs and lows, is extremely taxing.
If breastfeeding hasn’t been possible, it doesn’t mean you won’t be able to bond with your child. Remember, in no way is it a reflection of your capabilities as a mother. Be kind to yourselves.
While busy preparing for your newborn checklist, don’t forget to prepare yourself too - this will be the ultimate checklist !
Prepare your mind and body.
Try not to listen to horror stories about labour. These will not help if you are feeling nervous. Keep in mind that for every bad one there will be someone else with a great story to tell.
Childbirth is often unpredictable, so it is very important to be prepared for anything, everything.
From contractions to pushing to delivery complications, there are a lot of things that can happen during childbirth and delivery.
But don’t worry, certainly you’re not alone.
It’s an unforgettable experience that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
People don’t realize that emotions in pregnancy are on another level.
Everything just feeling so much deeper, unpredictable emotions.
Creating a life ain’t easy. People won’t understand this, unless they are pregnant themselves.
It’s so hard when everyone around you invalidates these feelings and emotions. You are not alone.
Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but no one talks about how mentally draining it is.
Although your pregnancy progresses well as expected, you still constantly worried that something is wrong with your baby.
You may have the fear of not being a good mom for your baby.
The fact you worry about being a good mom means you’re a good mom!
Whether it is the first time, 2nd time or even 3rd time, everyone C-section story and experiences is different.
Repeat C-section might not be as an easy operation as the first one as your abdomen might have adhesions from the previous surgery or C-section.
Let’s face it—breastfeeding is hard. The breast is a complicated organ that doesn’t always work as expected, even with the best of intent. In addition, successful lactation requires balancing a complex combination of physical, emotional and personal factors.
Some women can manage breastfeeding beautifully, while others run into challenges that make breastfeeding impossible.
Listen to your body and don't get frustrated about what you can't control.
I hope that as health care providers, we can find a way to create encouraging and supportive environments for breast-feeding, while also supporting women who cannot.
Childbirth & delivery, gets a bad reputation, when we focus only on the negative, or potentially negative, aspects of it.
It becomes frightening because women are regaled with horror stories - from other women. From the social media. From men.
Expecting mothers tell this to yourselves :
“Wasn't birth the most empowering thing you've ever done?”
Challenges of pregnancy after 35 years old ;
1) the older you are, the more difficult for you to have pregnancy. The quality of women’s egg deteriorates with time
2)once you pregnant - either spontaneous or by assisted reproduction; you at high risk of having diabetes and hypertension in pregnancy
3) risk of aneuploidies and congenital anomalies would be higher with maternal age
4) chances of multiple pregnancy (twin or triplets) may be higher - making your pregnancy high risk and need regular and frequent monitoring
5) greater risk of prematurity and having small babies
6) risk of pregnancy loss and miscarriage higher
7) as u might be having pregnancy-related issues, C-section chances are higher
Make an informed choice. Attend pre-pregnancy assesment clinic first - to see you are fit to pregnant and what extra monitoring that you should know