A healing stage is DISGUST. Yes, DISGUST. You will be DISGUSTED by the people whose love you seeked. You will feel embarrassed about the choices you made and the people who had access to you who didn't deserve it. Feel this feeling then let it go.
That will NEVER be you again.
God I love soft dumbification. The “let your thoughts go, you don’t need them” and “no thinking, that’s for me to do” I have to just obey when they’re being so sweet about it. How could I not let my brain be wiped when you’re so polite in telling me?
Any idiot can have sex. But can you make a woman feel safe? Comfortable? Appreciated? Adored? Can you support her at her worst? No? Then stay the fuck away from her.