lemme explain this for those in the back.
most women don’t like when a guy’s birthday is before theirs cos then the guy can gauge what he’ll do for them based on what they did (if he gets boxers & singlet gift, they get pant)
and if they decide to go big so that he will go big they might stop talking and they’ll have lost. but if theirs is before his then the guy can’t gauge and if he goes all out and they stop talking before his, they’d still come out on top.
In summary, most women are always in business
it’s basically profit & loss to them.
Your friends are lying to you to preserve your feelings, I have no reason to. You suck at relationships outside of the honeymoon stage/early love bombing, stop wasting people time, it’s not for you