There is opposition in all things so if great things happen to people, that means horrible things have to happen as well. All we can do is try to learn from the bad and move on with hope for experiencing the great again
Jesus commanded his apostles to not teach Gentiles or Samaritans (Matt 10), but just a few years later commanded them to teach them (Acts 10).
IMO this shows how aware the Lord is of His children and their current circumstances. Trust in the Lord also means trust in His timing.
canceling plans is ok. staying home to cook is ok. disappearing for a bit to get your life together is okay. lets encourage it & respect self improvement.