My favorite @elonmusk quote that I often send friends:
Do not fear losing. “You will lose,” Musk says. “It will hurt the first fifty times. When you get used to losing, you will play each game with less emotion.” You will be more fearless, take more risks.
I am filled with optimism at the fact that the world's first trillionaire was made not by hedge funds or market manipulation, but by building the infrastructure to take America to the stars.
I respect the hell out of anyone who made their money in public markets. No barriers of entry, no buddy buddy deal flow, just true PvP in the orderbooks.
for all you know, this could be your last summer.
as homer wrote, you will never be lovelier than you are right now. so tell her she has a pretty smile. get lean or become a unit. find wonder in boarding the airplane. drink more coffee than you need. walk on the beach until your feet hurt. write your girlfriend a note on a tuesday. waste money because its not all about retirement. pull over at the lookout. ask the uber driver about his life. tell the woman in the elevator you like her shoes and mean it. call your mother. ask the waiter his favorite thing on the menu and order that.
theres so much life in the slow moments, and you sprint past it chasing the next thing. but at any time, in any situation, you can find the good. smile. be happy. recognize it for a one of one life experience. what good is walking around a curmudgeon when tomorrow could be curtains.
for heavens sake, flirt with the world.
Insane how you could be in the coolest place ever but then you get back to California and all of the colors are like 1.5x more saturated and the light is slightly brighter. Absurd place
Everyone is always rooting for you. Your parents want you to be a great son. Wife wants you to be a great husband. Your boss wants you to be a slam dunk hire. Every first date you’ve ever been on they’ve been rooting for you to get laid. Every time you started to tell a joke people hoped it would have a hilarious punch line. Your proximity to anyone is a reflection of themself, meaning the deck is never stacked against you, and your failures are completely your own
how to get anything you want out of life:
close your eyes. seriously. now breathe slower.
focus on your heartbeat, feel it and calm down.
now feel your shoulders relax. now relax your face, your jaw, your chest, your stomach. let yourself feel safe for a moment.
now ask yourself "What do i actually want?" i mean, do you really know what you want? what does your soul quietly ache for when nobody is watching? peace? freedom? love? strength? respect? money?
sit with it. now think about the version of you who already has it.
see him clearly. notice how calm he is. how he speaks. how he handles pressure. how he no longer doubts himself every moment. because that version of you was not created overnight. he was created through small decisions repeated for years. through discipline. through pain. through lonely nights nobody saw. through continuing to believe in himself even when nothing around him gave him a reason to.
and that is how people change. not through motivation but through identity. the moment you stop seeing yourself as weak, behind, broken or incapable. your entire life slowly starts changing.
write about your goals often. experiment more.
embrace uncertainty. build discipline. surround yourself with people who want more out of life too.
little by little. day by day. until one day you look around and realize. you became him.
sometimes you just want the penthouse in nyc, sometimes you want a quiet farm in the middle of nowhere, sometimes you want to be in an obscure village in rural japan training daily to become the last samurai…
but you always want the beautiful girl who loves you unconditionally
My favorite thing about "lifestyle businesses" is that there's no hard distinction between work and play anymore. In the traditional 9-5 you're forced to be busy during those 8 hours or at least pretend you are
Get an email after you clock out, have to reply to an acquaintance over the weekend, you see it as a nuisance that interferes with your "me time" which is merely a manmade concept that certain hours are supposed to be reserved for leisure only
But if you control your own time then everything going on in your life just becomes one ongoing experience. Out and about on a Saturday, yeah let me just send some voice messages to a client. I'll just find random 10 minute pockets throughout the day and keep the dialogue going
Tuesday night, have the game on, alright let's chef up some content or fire off some DM's during halftime. If you tried to track how many hours you "worked" this week, it'd basically be impossible. But you definitely worked a lot. And simultaneously didn't work that much. You're exhausted. But also energized
Some employers create cultures that allow you to live like this too. Maybe certain people don't like it. But personally I'm a huge fan of never having to make that mental delineation. Who cares what time or day it is. No labels attached to any task. No such thing as productive or unproductive. You're just holistically moving forward at any given moment
The thing about yesterday is that it's already compressed into your nervous system. You can't un-live it, the question is whether you're too busy arguing with the past to accept it.
The flex is waking up and deciding that today is a different game entirely.
It’s really quite amazing how much power you have when you decide to detach from an identity
The person who holds the greatest power is the one who goes into their body and simply asks these simple questions:
“What do I desire?”
“What do I want?”
“What do I feel like doing?”
And then detach from any and every identity that does not align with the world around them
Meaning:
You ask yourself in the moment “what do I desire from this situation I find myself in?”
Let’s say you’re in negotiations for a business deal
Or you’re on a sales call
Or you’re on a date
Or you’re simply meeting a potential new friend for the first time
Or you’re meeting a business connection/transactional relationship (99% of relationships you make as an adult out of college)
Ask yourself what do I desire and then go into your body/mind and then listen to whatever comes up *then* remove all judgment from the answer
So if your body is telling you to go up to a person; go up to them regardless of what they look like
If your mind is telling you to bring up a subject; bring it up no matter the potential consequences
If you’re soul is crying out for connection and you get this strange feeling you should call this random number in your phone that you haven’t spoken to in years and have a discussion; do it and watch how it all works out in ways you never thought possible
When you get used to this you get into a flow state
In a flow state you are just taking a nonstop action and are completely out of your head and in the moment
In a flow state you exponentially outperform everyone around you and your shift from outcome dependence to outcome independence
It goes from being stressful to being lighthearted fun
And life goes from feeling very small to a giant open world video game where you’re only Job is to just get up and do whatever your body/mind feels like doing
This is the power of detaching from identity and letting your identity naturally evolve however it wants to
Who are you to say that you are X type of person forever?
You objectively have no proof you will be what you are right now for the rest of your life
So why not choose to believe you can be more than what you are right now?
I guarantee you that you’ll have a lot more fun lol
I know I do
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