Temi Otedola shared a workout video showing just 1% of her daily routine, and somehow you used that to criticize Nigerian women.
Just because many Nigerian women don’t document their workouts doesn’t mean they don’t exercise, especially during pregnancy. Maybe it’s only the women around you who fit the stereotype you’re describing.
Pregnancy is different for every woman. Even with proper nutrition, exercise, and medical care, complications can still arise. That’s why some women deliver vaginally while others require a C-section. Every pregnancy journey is unique.
It takes a lack of understanding to compare a woman who has 24-hour access to domestic staff, private healthcare, personal trainers, cooks, and other support systems with the average working-class woman who is balancing work, family responsibilities, and pregnancy at the same time.
Different circumstances create different realities. Empathy and common sense should make that obvious. Probably you lack those.
If she’s 14 and only recently moved to the UK, it may suggest that the foundation was already fragile before the relocation. At this age, teenagers naturally test boundaries, and can be rebellious. so a lack of structure, guidance, and consistent consequences can become more obvious.
Some Nigerian parents rely mainly on shouting or spanking and find it hard to adjust when they move to the UK where those methods no longer work especially at that age. What is needed now is rebuilding the relationship, creating clear boundaries, and helping both parent and child communicate better.
I’d advise your friend to focus on reconnecting emotionally with her daughter. If possible, spending time back in Nigeria during holidays could help strengthen their bond. Most importantly, your friend and her husband should learn to regulate their own emotions and adopt a more balanced parenting approach before returning to the UK.
@Funminz London Burroughs of Brent, Tower Hamlets and Ealing are all in London. Brent is northwest London, Tower Hamlets in east London where you have Canary Wharf and then Ealing is in West London.
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I’m not much of a poster or should I say never been a poster but I’m trying to reinvent myself and step out my comfort zone.
What’s one thing you’re doing this year that’s outside your comfort zone?
Violence is violence. Full stop.
When we discuss gun & knife crime, the focus must be on the act not the race of the offender. Justice should be blind, consistent, and applied equally to everyone.
Anthony Karmelo stabbed someone. Comparing his case to Rittenhouse doesn’t change that.
And in the UK, knife crime is a crisis which demands real action not performative outrage. Every victim deserves the same compassion and urgency, regardless of who they are .
Outrage should be universal. Safety should be too.
It depends on the reason for the visit. However, it’s a good idea to make sure your home is tidy and that there are no hazards that could cause harm lying around. Ensure you have food in the house, as I remember a friend mentioning that they checked her fridge during a visit. Also, make sure the children's sleeping areas are clean and suitable for them.
It’s fine to leave toys in the children's play area as this shows they have space to play. Most importantly be prepared and answer the questions honestly and clearly. Health visitors are there to support you and your family, so try not to worry too much.
@mrboboskie I’m always indoors 🥹but I’d actually say the reverse is the case. Finding a good man in the UK is so difficult, it’s like trying to pour water through the eye of a needle. These days they don’t seem to want to date, and honestly, only God knows what they’re looking for. Sigh 😩.
This is exactly what I thought too. She and Tristan were never married or even engaged. He cheated multiple times, so at some point you have to let him go.
The same thing happened with Lamar, but Lamar is no longer part of the conversation. What happens in 10 years when Tristan eventually gets married to someone else? Will she still be around playing sister wives?