SheilavanTolCounselling

An experienced psychotherapist and supervisor, I delight in engaging with, supporting and encouraging others.

[SheilavanTolCounselling @EdinCounselling]

Would you like 6 sessions of free supervision? I'm a psychotherapist training to be a supervisor with Physis in Edinburgh. Please get in touch: [email protected]

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Check out my latest article: How We Use Psychological Defences To Lessen Strong Emotions https://t.co/Ja1roYdtVp via @LinkedIn

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Why do we need psychological defences?

They help us:

• Avoid strong, threatening feelings
• Maintain self-esteem
• Manage depression and anxiety
• Form stronger attachments
• Establish a stronger sense of self

Ref: Nancy McWilliams
#change #defences #psychology

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As parents we recycle the stages our children go through.

This means teenage years for them, can also come with self-doubt, insecurity and questioning for us.

#parenting #psychology #selfcare #mentalhealth

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Humid hair? Relax, you can still go on holiday and be yourself.

#relax #travel #mentalhealth
#humidhair

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Having constant conflict with your teens? Here's what to do:

1) Encourage healthy independence

2) Confront unacceptable behaviour

3) Encourage problem-solving

#mentalhealth #teens #exams #ExamSeason #parenting

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#exam season's here.

What are your #stress #triggers?

How can you #prevent stress?
#mentalhealth #anxiety #SundayMotivation

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https://t.co/uJTg87Oz6C
Categories of #stress
Personal #triggers
#prevention

#stressmanagement #preventionisbetterthancure
#anxietyrelief
#changeyourperspective #triggers
#uncertainty #mentalhealthmatters
@EdinCounselling

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Feeling stuck in your business? Go to a #businessgateway Digital Marketing Course.

I learnt:
1) To write my action plan
2) To action, my action plan
3) Not to faff about
4) Repeat

https://t.co/VZm7nEq6Ck

#business #edinburgh #tasty #course #biscuits

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Quick fixes for boredom in happy relationship:
Spontaneity, new experiences, do stuff apart, laugh together and encourage each other.

#mentalhealth #SandiMann #boredom #couples #relationship c

[SheilavanTolCounselling @EdinCounselling]

Quick fixes for boredom in happy relationship:
Spontaneity, new experiences, do stuff apart, laugh together and encourage each other.

#mentalhealth #SandiMann #boredom #couples #relationship c

[SheilavanTolCounselling @EdinCounselling]

Do you know your shame style? Knowing this can help you feel more ready for #relationshipcounselling.

Here's a fictional case study explaining each shame response.
https://t.co/UhzLZZPSqf

#Edinburgh #Counselling #Couples #shame #MentalHealth #EdinburghCounsellingAssociates

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https://t.co/9fIR2kkIFV

It's a stunning spring day, to lead my first Meetup walk in Fife, a circular walk between Aberdour and Burntisland.

What fun things are you doing today?

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Do you know your shame style? Knowing this can help you feel more ready for #relationshipcounselling.

Here's a fictional case study explaining each shame response.
https://t.co/UhzLZZPSqf

#Edinburgh #Counselling #Couples #shame #MentalHealth #EdinburghCounsellingAssociates

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How do you respond When you are shamed?

Withdraw
Appease others
attack others
Attack yourself

Understanding your shame response helps you to respond better in your relationships.

#couplescounselling #PhysisScotland #Communication #shame #BrenéBrown #mentalhealth

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Are you feeling a bit jaded?

Let the beauty of springtime emerging still capture your hopeful imagination.

#daffodils #Spring #Edinburgh #imagination #hope #mentalhealth

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A highly recommended course.

[Physis Scotland @PhysisScotland]

Diploma in Counselling Supervision. Are you an experienced counsellor or psychotherapist interested in developing a supervision practice? Join this course. Info and to register, visit our website https://t.co/cWV8qTximW

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Does your partner listen to you?

Do you feel they meet your needs?

Couples counselling can help improve #communication increasing #satisfaction in your #relationship

https://t.co/muBfw1dmnQ

#MentalHealthMatters #Edinburgh #counselling #couplesgoals #couplescounselling

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Thank you for sharing this Mark.

[Dr Mark Widdowson @DrMarkWiddowson]

Doing a PhD is an amazing thing but it is also incredibly tough and challenging to mental health. Here is a great poster/ info graphic on mental health for PhD students and their supervisors

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When I doodle, I draw spirals & my mind starts to flow with them.

Today's been a low energy, a contrast to striving.

My best ideas often come on such days, my perspective shifts.

#resting #accepting #perspective #flow
#business #marketing #networking #energy #mentalhealth

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Jealousy can feel overwhelmingly shameful. It's confusing and hard to think through rationally. This video helps translate discord into accord.

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What is jealousy?

Helping you explain jealousy to your partner.

#jealousy #trust #obssessivethoughts #anger #anxiety #couples #relationships #awareness #mentalhealth #communication #counselling