Mercy Eghaghe Osato

Handmade Footwear Vendor in Benin City.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If you are able to feed your children properly every day, please, as much as possible, avoid sending them to spend holidays or even weekends with relatives who are struggling to provide food, just because you want them to bond with their cousins.

They'll either starve your children, or call them "spoilt" just because your children wanted two boiled or fried eggs, eight slices of bread, or more than one piece of meat.

They may even say something awful to your kids that could have a long-term damaging effect on their psyche.

Poverty is bad.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Before 2020, I was always leaving the house every day of the week to work.

Sometimes, I would return home at 8 or 9pm.

Once I enter the house, my wife would welcome me.

On the TV, she would be watching one movie or series.

Then she will change the channel to CNN or BBC for me and ask me to go shower and have dinner.

"This is what you stay at home all day to do. Watch Telemundo or Zee world. You stay at home all day doing nothing. I go out every day to earn money to provide you for you and these children. Lazy woman!"

She won't say anything to me.

She'll go to the kitchen and wait for me to shower before dishing out my food.

I would notice that her eyes were blurry.

In the morning, I would be off by latest 6:30 am.

One day, I came back home, and my wife said that she wanted to discuss with me.

"Sweetie, I am depressed. I want to go back to work. I feel like I am useless in this marriage and I am not contributing anything to it. Please, help me find a job"

I blasted her and told her that I got a job without her, and I used my qualifications to apply, and that she should do same.

My wife cried so much that night.

Then came covid 19...

My office had asked us to start working from home.

Monday to Friday, I was home working.

My kids were still going to school under strict covid rules.

I started studying my wife more.

This woman was not resting.

I figured that she was only watching those series or shows just to stay awake to welcome me back home.

She was busier than I was.

She showed me what it meant to have a wife who is a housewife.

One day, I could not take it anymore.

"Baby, you have been asking me to pay you monthly salary, I think you're right. I will be giving you the money"

Covid made me appreciate my lovely wife, more.

Despite dating her for 9 years, I still could not see that God had blessed me enormously.

Because I was carried away by my female colleagues that were age mates with me and working.

And I wanted my wife to "fit in".

I was wrong.

That was why in 2021, I came here to write that a housewife that is playing her role effectively and efficiently without bringing a dime is not a liability.

It took me years into marriage to realize this.

My lovely wife is a hard worker.

And I have seen and still seeing the results of her hardwork on our lovely children.

Our children are so smart and they're high flyers in their schools.

Not only that, they are well behaved and very respectful and contented with what they have.

All made possible because of my lovely wife.

As a man, if you have a wife like mine, please be kind and be patient with her.

Yes, she may not be bringing money, but that's not her primary role or responsibility.

Your Lovely wife is more valuable to you than the money that you hope to be getting from her.

Only if you will open your brain and mind to understand me.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

It's when you get to your 30+ as a woman, and you do not have any man that will ask you:

"How are you doing my baby?"

And it's when you get to 35+ as a man, and you do not have any woman that will ask you:

"How are you doing my darling?"

He is not asking you that because he wants to sleep with you, but because he genuinely cares for you.

She's not asking you that because she wants to bill you or tell you her family problems, but because she genuinely cares about you.

That is when you'd realize how important it is to have your own man or woman that you'll call your spouse.

As you grow older in life, you'll grow lonelier.

Your mates, friends, siblings, colleagues will not sacrifice their family time because of you.

You'll find yourself making friends with people you naturally wouldn't want to be friends with because you're lonely.

It doesn't matter if you have all the money in the world.

Your money will only help you mask your misery to those who are close to you because of your money.

They'll continue to milk from you and giving you a faux sense of happiness.

If you sleep with different women, you'll be happy.

But after they leave, you'll feel dirty and empty.

And vice versa.

You need your own person.

You cannot do this life alone until you die.

Even if you do, you'll die unhappy and perhaps, unfulfilled.

End.

[Mr. Láyí @layiwasabi]

always express your discomfort to people you do not want to resent

[NaijaFarmer @Nig_Farmer]

I keep saying this, they just has to be another way to do this😭

This method always makes me sad.

Now, they're pouring both vinegar and salt.

Their skins would literally be on fire at this point.

I can't imagine the level of torture.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

At the age of 23/25, my wife and I were serving (NYSC).

I was not even sure of what would become of me after service.

But it took me 4 more years before I could marry her.

In the Western world, it's very common to see young men getting married at 25.

Why? Because they have a better economy and social benefits for children, etc. Most children go to public schools (primary and secondary), which are free. Health care is also provided in public hospitals for most people.

But here in Africa, and in Nigeria, the reverse is the case.

While we have public primary and secondary schools, most of them are not in good shape.

That is to show you how bad things have become.

Because I went to a public primary and secondary school, and the same applies to my wife.

In Nigeria today, most parents prefer to send their kids to private schools and also use private hospitals.

We don't have the basic social amenities or benefits that most people enjoy in the Western or more developed world.

So, in such a situation, is it advisable for a young man to get married at 24?

Is he mentally and financially prepared for the responsibilities?

Because whether you like it or not, once you're married, you must live up to your responsibilities, regardless of your age.

Which is why, even though I encourage early marriage, I still advise that 35 is not too late for you. You need a strong financial plan and buffer to be able to survive as a married man in a country like Nigeria.

Your fathers may have married at a much younger age, but we had a better country. Private schools were very scarce, and most of us went to public schools.

If our government is failing us, do not fail yourself by embarking on a journey of marriage when you're not prepared.

And if you decide to embark on it, please manage the responsibilities you take on.

End.

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

My lover 🧎‍♀️

[simp4M_ @sheismattie]

After calling everybody "my love" wetin you go call your actual love?

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

What size please ?

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality mule (half shoes)
Can be made in your desired color and sizes for 35,000 naira only ❤️
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[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

Good morning family
Today is going to be a great day for us ❤️

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

Love is in the air, Wear face mask!

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade make sandals
Available in all sizes and colors for 25,000 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍: Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍: Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

Good morning family
Today is going to be a good day for us ❤️

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)

[Mercy Eghaghe Osato @EghagheMercy]

High quality handmade female slippers
Available in all sizes and colors for 11,500 only.
Send a DM to order now❤️
📍Benin City, Edo state. (Can be delivered to any location)