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Building my life with God, one hardwork, intentional move, strategy, investment, and wise decision at a time. |Isaiah 41:8-10

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@ceraliza Buh he's guilty as charged too cos why you calling your ex on FT?

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@hy_wemmy I definitely learned this the hard way. Good thing is that I learned. 😂

[NaNa🌼✨ @sil_vee_yah]

Hardwork is good, but favour hits differently. Favour brings ease. It gives you an advantage.

There would be no logical way to explain how things just fall in place for you. Also, the unusual access & acceptance by men.

I truly pray the grace for favour rests on you🙏🏻.

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@Daniel890680121 Sometimes, they disrespect and disregard you to make themselves comfortable. It's not always about other people. Sometimes, it's just selfishness and an overinflated ego.

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@phranceskaa I agree, completely.

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

Where is the lie?
Peep the comments. 😂😂😂

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

I don't know who needs to hear this but know that repeated negative behaviours are not mistakes, they are decisions that do not consider your feelings. They are not confusions but confessions of selfishness, disrespect, and nonchalance. Don't be a victim of unkind time wasters.

[Brad Lea @TheRealBradLea]

REAL TALK ABOUT PEOPLE:

1. Weak people are cruel. That’s how you know they’re weak.

2. The dumbest person in the room? They won’t shut up.

3. Miserable people are jealous people. Period.

4. The most irrelevant ones walk around like they own the place.

5. You want to know if someone’s wise? Watch how they handle pressure. They’re calm.

6. Strong people are kind. Always. Because they don’t need to be anything else.

7. The smartest guy in the room? He’s quiet. He’s listening. He’s learning.

8. Happy people aren’t loud about it. They’re just… living.

[Arky @arkcarlly]

Normalize not forcing your importance in someone's life. Let people do what they want so you can see what they'd rather do. If someone doesn't see the value in having you by their side, don’t try to convince them.

[LLONER 🦅🪐 @eyojoel77]

People think healing is soft. But healing is violent. Because nothing is scarier than waking up one day and realizing... your whole personality was just a trauma response. That your calm was actually suppression. Your independence was built on not being able to rely on anyone. Your perfectionism was just fear in disguise. Healing means grieving the version of you who did what she had to just to feel safe. And letting her go is the hardest part.

[Ada @adanonso_]

When we were still courting and talking about the kind of marriage we wanted, one of the agreements we made was that we would never have separate bedrooms.

Not because we couldn’t afford them. Not because we wanted to monitor each other. But because we knew that two imperfect people living together would definitely offend each other from time to time.

So we made a simple rule.

No matter how annoyed, angry, frustrated, or stubborn we were, we would still sleep in the same bed.

Our reasoning was simple, it is very difficult to maintain serious anger when the person you are angry with is right beside you. At some point during the night, your feet will touch. An arm will cross over. Somebody will steal the blanket. Somebody will cough. Somebody will turn and accidentally bump into the other person.

Before long, the silence starts feeling unnecessary.

For over 14 years now, that simple agreement has worked for us.

I’m not saying we don’t disagree. We do.

I’m not saying we don’t get upset. We do.

But we have never gone to bed so angry with each other that we carried it into another day. Somehow, between the conversations, the laughter that sneaks back in, and simply sharing the same space, the anger usually loses its strength before sunrise.

Maybe that’s why I’ve never really mastered the art of malice.

And for all the kings and queens of MALICE out there, maybe stop drafting tomorrow’s anger today. You might discover that being forced to share a bed with the person you love is sometimes the therapy your stubborn heart needs.

[Kam @PatsKam]

"Marry someone you can suffer with."

I used to think this quote was so sad.

Now I understand it. Real love isn't candlelit dinners & flowers all the time. Marriage is built in the ordinary moments & the hard seasons. It's who holds you when you're drowning & builds you a boat.

[Ebun @kenkenlewu]

During my first year in the UK, I lived in a large shared apartment with six other people. It was one of those international flats where you learn more about life than you ever expected.

There was a Spanish guy, a Latvian, an Indian-British guy, a Canadian, myself, and two Polish flatmates a young man and a young woman. Everyone had their own room, and we mostly minded our business.

A few months after I moved in, the two Polish flatmates started dating.

They were only 19 years old.

What struck me wasn't the romance. It was the way they approached life together.

Neither of them came from wealthy families. They both worked part-time jobs and were trying to survive on modest incomes. Because they were under 21, they earned less than older workers due to age-based minimum wage rates at the time.

Money was tight.

But every challenge they faced, they faced as a team.

Whenever there was an issue with bills, they didn't come separately. They came together.

"We are a bit short this month."

"We are trying to sort things out."

"We are looking for extra shifts."

It was always "we."

Not "he should."
Not "she should."
Not "that's your responsibility."

Just "we."

I remember hearing conversations like:

"We are saving to get our own place."

"We are trying to manage our finances better."

"We are both looking for additional work."

"I'll pick this up on my way home. Can you handle that?"

Simple things. Normal things. But they revealed something deeper.

These two teenagers understood partnership better than many adults twice their age.

There was no constant battle over who should do what. No endless debates about who owed whom. No scorekeeping.

They simply saw themselves as a team trying to build a life together.

That experience taught me something important:

A successful relationship is not built on age. It is built on mindset.

You can meet people in their thirties who are still looking for someone to carry them through life. And you can meet teenagers who already understand sacrifice, cooperation, and shared responsibility.

A few years later, I noticed something similar with another flatmate.

The Spanish guy was 23 and dating an Indian lady. She owned a car; he didn't.

Every morning she would pick him up for work.

They travelled together to India, Spain, and Italy. From what I could see, they planned and funded their trips as a couple. Nobody was trying to prove a point. Nobody was obsessed with keeping score.

If one person had more at a particular moment, they contributed more. If the other person needed support, they got it.

Again, it was the same mentality:

"We."

Not "me."
©FaithOjone

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

Yes, I agree.
I've seen it happen.
It's not the easiest to navigate but when you eventually find your footing and deal with the triggers, your relationship will be the healthiest you ever had.

[LLONER 🦅🪐 @eyojoel77]

Some relationships don't need to end.
They need to start over. Not because the love wasn't real. But because the version of you that started it, isn't the version you are now. A season of disconnection doesn't always mean it's over forever.
Sometimes it means both people needed space to grow without pulling each other apart in the process. We treat distance like a death sentence.
Sometimes starting over is the only way to move forward. Not back to who you were. Not back to old patterns. But forward, with clearer boundaries, better language, deeper understanding. Some love has to be reintroduced. Relearned.
Rechosen.

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@_omalichaa Lol I'm sure everyone knows this by now.

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

I'm tired of telling adults this thing. Toh!

[koke.n @koke_nkwe]

Teach yourself to not borrow money

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

This healed me. Woosh! I love everything that a kind and considerate love has to offer.

[Ada @adanonso_]

I see a lot of conversations about gender roles on the timeline these days.

Truthfully, I believe some roles naturally come easier to one person than the other. But I also believe marriage is not a competition. Sometimes it is simply about supporting your partner in ways that make life easier for both of you.

Before my husband and I got married, I was very honest with him about something.

There were certain chores I had never done in my life. Not only had I never done them, I had absolutely no interest in learning them.

I told him plainly, “If this is going to be a problem, let us discuss it now because I don’t want surprises after marriage.” I even suggested that if it became necessary, we could always pay someone to do it.

My husband looked at me and said, “Why would we do that? I’ll do it.” I laughed. Not because I didn’t believe him.

I just thought it was one of those sweet things people say before marriage. You know the kind.

The promises that sound beautiful during courtship and mysteriously disappear after the wedding.

Well, here we are over 14 years later. Not once has this man asked me to do those chores. Not once. Not even a “Can you help me this one time?”

Nothing.

The funny thing is that after years of watching him do it, I eventually learned how to do it myself. Every now and then I would feel guilty and offer to help.

His response was always the same. Don’t worry about it. Just sit there and keep me company. Imagine that. I came to help and got reassigned to the position of Official Companion.

So there I would sit, talking, laughing, giving completely unnecessary commentary while he worked. Sometimes I wonder if that was his plan all along.

Maybe he knew that if he kept doing it long enough, one day I would learn by watching. Or maybe he simply meant what he said.

What I know for sure is that he kept his word. And in a world where people make promises they never intend to keep, I think that’s one of the most beautiful gifts you can give your spouse.

Not the chore itself. Not the task. The consistency. The fact that fourteen years later, your actions still match your words.

Marriage has taught me that love is often found in the small things people do repeatedly without keeping score.

And sometimes, love looks like a husband telling his wife, “Don’t bother. Just sit there and keep me company.”

[Shadow🫂 @Em_Jayyy]

@ohsoyou_tee @oddettem Not the twist I was expecting. 😩

[Chioma Amadi @Chioma__Amadi]

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[Chioma Amadi @Chioma__Amadi]

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