bell hooks is a ~controversial~ figure but she cooked when she said a lot of people do not want to deal with the fact that they were not treated lovingly as children and are trying to reconcile that dynamic with what they understand to be love
“She can’t keep a man”. It’s so easy to keep a man ya’ll. I promise. All you gotta do is allow them to lie and cheat in peace, don’t challenge their patterns, and don’t address anything they do that hurts you. You’ll keep them for years and years until they find their next toy.
this is saturnian and martian women except we are not “mean” we’re just big softies on the inside who don’t tolerate disrespect and have strict boundaries
I hate how women who are confident and self assured are treated by the masses, even by other women, who likely wish to covet that energy for themselves