I think what really breaks people isn’t heartbreak itself, but the aftermath of being truly seen. Someone looked at you, saw you, & then decided you weren’t worth staying for. It’s not rejection, it’s exposure, the kind that makes you wish you had never opened the door.
That moment in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) under the covers, when Clementine pulls away and Joel finally understands what erasing pain really costs.
Ngl if you're someone who likes depth. You're more prone to attracting avoidants. They'll bring intellect and at first it'll feel like you're compatible. Until you realise you're engaging with a mind but the heart is in lockdown. Remember one sees you. The other just studies you.