African voice

Human developer, Reseacher socio-economic and cultural engineering of our society for better living. critical thinker.

[Benjamin Uzoma @Unlimited_BU]

@1OftenWonderWhy A man who earns his bread does not wait for a feast, he sets the table and invites a woman to dine. A woman who waits for a grander table may one day find herself eating alone, surrounded by the ghost of every table she rejected.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Yesterday, my lovely wife was supposed to send me N325k.

But she sent N310k.

When I saw the alert, she called.

Wife: sweetie, I have sent you the money.

Me: How much did you send?

Wife: N310k

Me: Is that the amount that you're supposed to send?

Wife: Sweetie, yes that's the amount.

Me: Do the calculations and deduct how much I am owing you, what will you get?

Wife: sweetie, it's N325k. I am sorry I made a mistake.

Me: No, you did not make a mistake. It was simple math and I recall telling you more than once that what you should send me is N325k.

Wife: Okay sweetie, let me send it now.

Me: Why did you choose to send N310k instead?

Wife: Sweetie, I said it was a mistake.

Me: I said it was not a mistake. Send me the balance.

Wife: Okay sweetie, I am sorry.

Me: Next time, don't play this petty game with me. I am not owing you. I will give you money whenever I choose to. You don't lack anything.

Wife: Sweetie, I said I am sending the balance now.

Me: Send the N15k to your investment and send me the screenshot.

Wife: Sweetie, I have done that. *she sends screenshot*

Me: Very good.

As far as I can recall, this is the first time that my lovely wife would try this. While it must have been an honest mistake, I was not sure & I was not ready to even give her the chance to explain.

Because I recall telling her more than once that she was going to send me N325k.

What if she deliberately did that, just to test me & see what she can do next? And then because I love her, & because she has never given me reasons to doubt her accountability, and I just let go?

My lovely wife is a woman.

Look beyond the N15k.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

The greatest mistake men make, is to think that women do not know what they're doing.

A woman that is constantly not treating right and with respect, knows that she's not treating you right & with respect.

If you think that her pleading with you for forgiveness, means that she has come back to her senses, you're a mumu man ooo.

She has put you where she wants to place you.

When she notices that you have become too comfortable in the position where she placed you, she'll start another round of disrespect and maltreatment.

Then she'll beg for forgiveness again.

And the cycle continues.

Until she has completely overwhelmed you, and broken your masculine frame.

Sex would be when she wants it.

The type of food that must eat, is what she feels like eating.

And that's if she feels cooking.

You'd notice key decisions being made right under your nose, without any recourse to you.

Your children will hardly come to yyu to take permission to do anything.

"Mummy said that I should do it"

She would start to leave the house without even informing you of where she is going to.

And she will return whenever she pleases.

Her phones would be all passworded, and you won't have access to them.

All these, are as a result of how you allowed her to break you.

Because you decided to treat her how she wanted to be treated, and not how she ought to have treated her.

Every woman would try this with her husband.

They'll push your buttons every now and then.

If you don't stand your grounds when necessary, you'll be in water and soap will enter your eyes.

"I love her so much, I cannot do without her".

"I don't want her to leave, she has been threatening to leave, so I begged her to stay"

Your eyes go soon clear.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

But the fact that I frown at transactional relationships, doesn't mean that you should not be kind to your girlfriend when it's expedient.

And the fact that she doesn't ask you for money, doesn't mean that if you marry her, she won't ask you for money.

If you don't give your wife money, you're looking for trouble ooo.

It doesn't matter how understanding she may be.

Especially if you now have children.

But in relationship, you need to know her and teach her how to be with you, without money.

Because you'll not always have money in marriage.

End.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@Getinwithgame Every woman blossoms at difrnt stages of there lives. Some while single,others over time,with d right man nd money. I will choose a seemingly ugly woman dts is peaceful and submissive 100X over a beautiful witch. dnt let d cloak of beauty deceive u,it usually fades in marriage

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@Dammi_Esq @hy_wemmy That can project seeking male attention and lack of self-sufficiency. I am a man,I once stopped taking a lady seriously cos she is always posting males on her status,if it's nt birthdays,it's random occasions pics of different males. I dnt do dt either, so d writer knows ball.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@realBigStanH Your achievements na for ur pocket,u fit use am mke eba if u want,e no change d price of garri for mrkt and it definitely doesn't affect anyone. You can definitely run ur partnership with ur wife and leave people with there methods.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@TheOdin_II Starting a post with "The little boy" actually says a lot abt ur esteem,nd i mst say it's really low, according to psychology. Trying to deflect and even contradict urself in the process without making any a point.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@camouflagged @TheOdin_II High value as it pertains to women is very subjective. And a high value woman in it's real sense of high value(family values, respect, submissive)would be glad to have a man like him.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@osemagnum @Wizarab10 @oku_yungx @ThaBoyYom If tribalism Neva kpai una,una no go get sense. Man has his standards and opinions yet u foolishly chose to drag a tribe into it.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@jon_d_doe dnt see need for a confrontation. He performs his duties. His reason is best known to him nd u mst trust dt he has d best of reasn 4 d interest of both of u. 150 frm ur salary,u have 500 mnthly to urself,rent is annual,u bring 50% of rent u still have enough saved 4 personal use.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@instablog9ja Naija girls are built for survival right from time,if u be girl I bet u wouldn't go back to carry d burden of bringing someone rather jst move on with the people already abroad.

[CRESCENT CHIDERA @crescent1011111]

@onyeka_chii Papa go send boy child to go do boi boi and send the the girl child to school
Girl child go learn how to construct sentence just to come online and label Igbo people (her papa) “patriarchy”

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

A poor man is liable to die young.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@big_yemm @ItsAmahAdoma Men need money before they can even think of dating whereas a lady only needs her tow-tow.

[Debbie✨ @Debbiektcha_]

Quick question: If a non‑Nigerian woman marries an Igbo man, does she have the right to be called those sweet Igbo pet names? Because those Igbo names are just too sweet, especially with the Igbo man’s accent.

Everything about Igbo men is special😁😍

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@ChisomAgbafor Then you really do not understand the dynamics of human relationships. It's all abt value and interest. Hw do u expect to be helped without giving anything in return,jst receiving and receiving,come on naw.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@alpharivelino People naturally don't have value for anything that is handed free,it doesn't matter the gender.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A man calling another man a misogynist, is a pussy & a woman pleaser.

Same with a man calling himself a feminist.

A man is a man.

Not a real man.

A real man is a manipulated man.

Pandering towards women for admiration.

When he should be the admired & the prize.

End.

[African voice @EmmaOnu6]

@jon_d_doe A man is a man and doesn't need validation to be a man. The moment the need to please arises,then masculinity is put under questioning.