One of my friends said, "you have interesting view about marriage. But we know you to be a generous person. You don't even know how to be unkind. All this one you are forming that your woman will invest her money in the home, we know she will enjoy your money. Your guys and people you don't even know are enjoying your kindness. Haba!"
I just smiled and explained to him. I'll write down what I told him.
You are looking at it monetarily. It is not about money. I don't have any attachment to money. The only reason I want to be rich is to expand my reach of kindness. If I'm always kind to strangers and friends, then you should know my partner is enjoying my money too. But it is not about money, it is about commitment. Whether I need her money or not, is irrelevant. Her money must be invested in the home the way mine is invested in the home. I'll eat her money the way she is eating my money. The point is, where your money is, that is where your heart is. You cannot buy love and commitment by footing all the bills. Someone who isn't giving to you habitually, is not in love with you. It is not a male attribute to give, it is a love attribute. Odogwu is not a flex. The whole point of marriage, is to do life together.
Everything I have belongs to her and the kids. If she doesn't know that, it is disappointing. Remember the story of the prodigal son? The one that stayed with the father was angry the father forgave the prodigal son because he didnt know that everything the father had, belonged to him.
You wouldn’t act emotional to your boss and colleagues at work because you know what’s at stake if you do so, having raging hormones doesn’t give you an excuse to lash out or act in an erratic manner to your partner under the guise of being in a relationship.
Control yourself!
so many of you have "girlfriends" that you can't invite to your house on weekends when you're running low on cash… you even have to keep to and fro uber money, flexing money, thank you for coming money, feeding money etc. but in ur mind u don't patronise sex workers .. ok😂🤷🏾♂️
i know most of you don’t know why
now pay attention;
more than 80% of the ocean is completely unexplored and scientists have found creatures that glow, disappear or survive crushing depths we can’t even reach... some parts of the ocean are so deep and dark that sound takes minutes to travel a few miles, meaning if something massive is moving down there, we might never hear it or understand what it truly is
the ocean you know isn’t just water, it’s a hidden world where entire ecosystems exist beyond human senses and imagination... and some scientists even believe there could be unknown civilizations of life down there , surviving in total darkness and crushing pressure
learn something...
I’m genuinely confused.
So after the inflation.
After the kidnappings.
After months of no light.
After tax and fuel hikes.
After terrible healthcare.
After salaries can’t even keep up with feeding.
Election Day comes then:
You dress up, You leave your house, You queue under the hot sun, You vote for the same person again.
You are not normal.
Tell me if I’m wrong.
@Sethpresh@Teeniiola nahh’ tell yourself the truth man! if it were a neighbor you wanted to share Easter Food to will it or will it not include at least “a piece” of meat? Na cause na security na! so you feel he isn’t worth it!
Nigeria is a reflection of the people in it.
Someone shot his shot at Victor Osimhen for a jersey and even tagged a vendor.
Osimhen saw it and said he’d personally send one.
Then told the vendor to add 15 more jerseys for others.
-That’s where it got interesting.-
Immediately money entered, the story changed.
The vendor suddenly said Osimhen told him to share it himself.
He claimed he had already picked 15 people.
—Then it got worse— He called the same person who brought him the business a scam.
From there, he tried to “negotiate”: 7 for the guy, 8 for himself.
Greed, plain and simple.
The guy refused and asked for all 15 jerseys as instructed.
—Next thing—
The vendor switched again. Said the post was “stolen” and brought another person to justify it.
—Now here’s the real problem—
Instead of people calling out the wrong, they started defending it.
“Make una settle.” “Na just jersey.” “Let it go.”
- Someone even offered to pay extra, rewarding bad behavior.
And that’s when it becomes clear:
We are not different from the people we complain about in power.
—This is how it starts—
small compromise, small dishonesty, small defense of wrong.
Nigeria didn’t just become this way overnight.
We built it, little by little, with everyday actions like this.
Truth is, many people are only “good” because they’ve not had the opportunity to do worse.
One day, we will have an honest conversation about the double standards on this TL.
One day.
I am now a proud owner of a 2022 Lexus RX350 F-Sport
In January 2023, I had less than $500 in my wallet when I first imagined owning this car.
Fast-forward to 2026, and today I own one, what was once a dream has finally become reality.
God made it possible, trading made it happen, fully paid by XAUUSD
Congratulations to me on my second ride. I’m honestly short of words… this one means a lot
I figured out that the reason why when you help many Nigerians, they add more energy to begging you constantly is ‘cos they don’t see your prior assistance as a single good deed, but as a confirmation that you’re indeed their helper. A manifestation of their spiritual belief.