The most damaging advice I see women getting is to marry a man who is practically good for them rather than someone they are truly attracted to and find very handsome and charming.
You can spot a woman who is not attracted to her man for his essence a mile away. She demands more from him materially. She is unenthusiastic about physical affection. She is less tolerant of his human flaws. She respects him less.
Physical attraction is not just “hotness” it is a physical manifestation of a thousand pieces of info your body and mind have subconsciously processed. When you want to sit near a man, find an excuse to touch him, suddenly care how you look a lot more when you’ll see him, these are all signs he’s good for you.
Other things like having a job, not being in jail and not being addicted to drugs do matter. But they are the questions you ask AFTER you ask yourself about carnal attraction.
Carnal attraction is the foundation of a good marriage. And it is only under the protection and love of a good marriage that people can be good parents and their children can thrive.